Addressing for College Students

BMoreBride6

Hi everyone,

I still have a while before any invites go out but I'm starting to collect all the needed addresses.  My FI is the oldest in his family and will have 3 siblings in college when we get married.  At the moment, 2 of them have SO's who will need to be invited by name.  My question is do I send the invite to the FBILs at their college addresses with the SO's names on them or do I send a seperate invites to the SO's college addresses?  I'm thinking the first option as I feel the latter would be a bit akward if they were to split from SO's before the wedding.  Did that make sense?

AddieCake

We sent ours to their parents' homes and texted them to let them know it was there. Include the SO's name. If they break up before the wedding, they know they are not invited. Nobody would think they still would be invited to their ex's family's/friend's wedding. 

misssunshine17

My dorm mail was a nightmare to get so I never checked it. I would do what Addie said.

radleyboo

Funny, I just talked to my mom about this last night.  I have a cousin who is in college and has a long-time girlfriend.  I'll be sending their inviation, with both names on it, to my Aunt's house as he's graduating in May and is not certain where he will be living afterward.  I'll shoot him a quick email or give him a call to let him know where their invitation is being sent. 

fionahalliwell

Definitely agree with Addie. Send it to the parents' home. Text or email the kid so s/he knows it's there. Even if the kid lives across the country, I think this is the way to go. The details will circulate, and when the kid comes home, the invite will be there. 

Get the SO's name and put it on the invitation. Everyone will know that a breakup before the wedding means that the SO is no longer invited (just as your friends would). College students aren't all that much younger than twentysomethings, even if everyone likes to think we are! 

peekaboo2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_addressing-for-college-students?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:368772cd-21d3-4f82-86c4-8d738f017115Post:97e84267-f6dc-4c68-85f1-f436fa27b340">Re: Addressing for College Students</a>:
[QUOTE]Everyone is assuming they live in dorms of course.  Personally, if they live in an apartment, I would send it there, and even if they do live in a dorm, I would call and ask them their preference.  Nothing irritated me more when I was in college than people sending crap to my mom's house when I had my own 2 bdrm house 45 minutes away.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>In addition, ask them what they prefer if they are in dorms.  I checked my college mail all the time, even though I lived in a dorm for 4 years, because it was easy to get to.</div>

peekaboo2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_addressing-for-college-students?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:368772cd-21d3-4f82-86c4-8d738f017115Post:7ec5f55e-3794-4b43-9593-17e2ef3a0a9b">Re: Addressing for College Students</a>:
[QUOTE]Stage said... Peekaboo directly replied...
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>Reading comprehension fail.  I'm tired today.  Please for a nap.</div>

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Stage.... lol. Love that gif.

I agree. Ask their preference. When I was askign for addresses for STDs I asked them where they would rather me send it. For invites, I'm going to have to ask for addresses again because I know a number of them (if not all) will have different addresses since they will either have graduated or moved into an apartment or into another dorm.

peekaboo2011

I know.  I promise I'm not going to run off screaming that you're mean and a terrible person.

Chloeagh

Definitely ask their preference. No one has done this for me and I have never even seen the wedding invitations I supposedly get. If I got one in my dorm PO, I may die of happiness. This is true of almost everyone at my school.

BMoreBride6

Thanks everyone!  Truth of the matter is FBIL could honestly care less and will probably be confused why I sent them one seperate from the family anyway but I feel like if they are old enough to have a girlfriend I would invite by name, they are old enough for their own invite 

Pookieson

I asked them.  They all chose to send it to their parents house because, "They like, lose stuff." Their words.  Just give them a ring or ask the parents to ask them what their preference is.