I've asked everyone in my family and they are split 50/50...so I figured I'd ask for help you all.
For my wedding party, I decided to make things easy on myself by just asking my family--meaning, my sister and all of my female cousins, and my fiance's sister. All of them are younger than me, and I thought I had the perfect plan. Until one of my cousins (age 16--half cousin) decided to completely act out. I haven't asked her or her half sister (also age 16--'full' cousin, or however that should be worded) yet, but I have asked everyone else in the wedding party to be a bridesmaid.
The half cousin has been a part of my life since she was two and I was 10, I love her so much and wanted her to be in my wedding. But since I've been engaged, she has really severed family ties and has done some awful things to my uncle (my favorite uncle, my Godfather, my second dad). Additionally, I've heard through the grapevine that my uncle's marriage is a little rocky (he is married to the half-cousin's mom, who has yet to congratulate me on my wedding, or even acknowledge the fact that I'm engaged, which is really upsetting). Unfortunately, I'm not anywhere near the location of the situation to feel out the problem for myself. All I'm hearing is what another bridesmaid and my grandmother have told me.
I just don't know what to do. I love the idea of including all of my little cousins, but if my half cousin is being a b**ch, and treating my uncle horribly, I don't know if I want her to be a part of the wedding. But I would be even more upset if I couldn't ask my cousin (the half cousin's sister) to be in the wedding, but the most polite thing I think would be to just leave those two out, since they are the same age. I've asked my grandma to keep an eye on the situation but I would just like to have everything finalized and it's a sticky situation.
Sorry, my family situation is confusing. My MOH says to ask all cousins, my mom says just leave the half cousin out, and my other BM suggested leaving both cousins out. I am torn, because I love my cousin, but I really hate that she's making my uncle's life difficult and I'm worried about what will happen with any scenario. My uncle really doesn't need any more drama in his life.
Any advice would be so helpful! Thanks!