annoyed

SD3194

Everytime my family asks me anything about the wedding and I tell them...they think I'm  a weirdo or something. My parents are pretty old school and don't really understand things. For instance, my colors are rose and pewter, my mom can't comprehend having wedding colors other than bright pinks and purples. The tuxes are dark grey, since they're not traditional black they seem to have a problem with it. We are being announced to The Final Countdown-Europe because that's "our" song, Mom thinks that's tacky. I want poppies in my bouquet and Dad literally said, "This is a wedding, not woodstock". Haha, seriously?? . You should have heard me explain what a Save the Date is. Let me get this right, you're going to send something to let people know your sending something? It was like a bad episode of Seinfeld.

They're not paying for it so I wish they would just loosen up a little bit. I'm over getting snide remarks about everything I suggest.

Sorry, had to vent some. I hope no one else has had this problem lol.

kellyjellybelly

Since they are not paying for anything, can you avoid the questions?  Myabe an answer like 'oh it's taken care of' if they ask about something and then change the subject?

emarston1

Ha!  FSIL and FBIL walked into the reception to The Final Countdown.  It was pretty funny.  FI and I are doing AC/DC's Thunderstruck so I definitely have no room to talk

J&K10910

Rose and pewter sound like kick ass colors to me.

I'd just avoid the questions.  I don't know how your relationship with your parents is, but if it were my parents, I'd flat out say to them "Since you don't like any of my answers, why don't you stop asking the questions?"  But I'm a brat.

SD3194

I don't even bring up the wedding at all. My mom will call me saying things like, "I was at the goodwill and found a lovely dress for $15, it had a few cigarette burns in it but I can patch it up". Kill me now lol.

I try to avoid talking about anything wedding related with them. I'm just worried that they won't like my wedding day and the things I've picked out because they aren't traditional enough. It's not like I'm even doing anything that bizarre. 

Jennifer&Nate

For what it's worth, I think everything you've planned sounds absolutely lovely! I know it's hard with pessimistic parents, but try to keep focused on the reason for all this - a new life with the man of your dreams!

emarston1

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[QUOTE]I don't even bring up the wedding at all. My mom will call me saying things like, <strong>"I was at the goodwill and found a lovely dress for $15, it had a few cigarette burns in it but I can patch it up"</strong>. Kill me now lol. I try to avoid talking about anything wedding related with them. I'm just worried that they won't like my wedding day and the things I've picked out because they aren't traditional enough. It's not like I'm even doing anything that bizarre. 
Posted by SD3194[/QUOTE]
So they want a traditional wedding but are willing to buy a burned dress?  Does your mom realize how silly that sounds?

kellyjellybelly

I would drink, Heavily.

and we walked in to Metallica.

SD3194

That is our favorite song, we never pass it up on kareoke night. When we first got together he made me a picture collage and in the middle said "The Final Countdown was only the beginning." Super corny but I love it lol.

I don't understand my parents because they are pretty laid back about other things. I've always been the party girl/van wilder type and they've never disapproved. Not sure why they're so weird about this wedding stuff.

SamiGraceT

Family.  Can't live with 'em, can't bury 'em in the back pasture!

My "highly suitable and friendly" self would (and has) told various people to shut up, and if that polite guide line was not enough, to STFU. 

The current STFU winner is my sister who is horrified, just horrified that I'm wearing red on my dress and veil.  So she's told my parents.  That's nice, they aren't invited sweetie, so they can snot and gripe all the way to the pasture.  If she doesn't grow up very quickly, her invite may get lost in the mail, good etiquette or not.  Not like she'll show her butt up anyways given it's half way across the country, so she'd have to travel.

sister2groom

Poppies are gorgeous and awesome. I also gained a much better appreciation for them when I saw the British use red poppies as the equivlent of yellow ribbons. There's a couple of weeks that pretty much everyone in the country wears one in their lapel to support the troops, pretty cool to see because I'm really big on supporting  the troops so I appreciated the sentiment (even though I'm not British). So basically they can be pretty meaningful flowers.

SD3194

Awe that's really sweet. Have you checked out AnySoldier.com? It provides addresses of troops overseas so that you can send them care packages. This is a perfect time to do that since Christmas is coming soon. I organized a fundraiser with my sorority last year and we sent out about 30 good sized boxes.

JanoBean75

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[QUOTE]Everytime my family asks me anything about the wedding and I tell them...they think I'm  a weirdo or something. My parents are pretty old school and don't really understand things. For instance, my colors are rose and pewter, my mom can't comprehend having wedding colors other than bright pinks and purples. The tuxes are dark grey, since they're not traditional black they seem to have a problem with it. <strong>We are being announced to The Final Countdown-Europe because that's "our" song</strong><em>,</em> Mom thinks that's tacky. I want poppies in my bouquet and Dad literally said, "This is a wedding, not woodstock". Haha, seriously?? . You should have heard me explain what a Save the Date is. Let me get this right, you're going to send something to let people know your sending something? It was like a bad episode of Seinfeld. They're not paying for it so I wish they would just loosen up a little bit. I'm over getting snide remarks about everything I suggest. Sorry, had to vent some. I hope no one else has had this problem lol.
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We did our entrance to this song too. No one had a problem with it. Mom was annoyed when we said we were adding Michael Jackson to our DJ list. But even though she and my dad were paying for most of it, she relented. She'd say, "well it's your wedding."

wrdgirl

Yea I know what you mean!  None of our parents are paying for it and as much as I appreciate their opinions I honestly don't want to know because what they think is good is not necessarily good to us.  I've had a few back and forth incidents with my mom when I try to tell her what I am planning on doing and then things got out of hand so I don't even mention it when she asks how the planning is going (my mom is out-of-state so thank goodness!).

I hate that feeling when they make you feel like you might be doing something wrong...ah well.