Save the Date etiquette VS. invitations?

futuremrsgates

I know invitation etiquette states I need to send every person in household over 16 (or 18?) their own invitation but do I need to follow the same rules for my Save the Dates?

Or is it okay to send one Save the Date to a household addressed

Mike & Anne Campbell

Julie and Davis

if Julie is 22 and Davis is 21. Is that okay because the Save the Dates are less of a formal occurance? And they DO live at home? I don't mind doing it either way, but if I can save some money, I'd like to.

lyndausvi

I would send each of the "kids" an STD.  That is what we did.    We had to order in like 50 or 25 increments anyway, so there was no cost increase other than postage. 

[Deleted User]

Send one to each over 18 years of age.  Nothing is worse than being treated as a child when you are an adult.  I was mildly offended at age 24 when I got invited to a wedding on the same invitation as my parents, with my name misspelled, when they knew that I  was over 18.  (Turns out I had graduated high school with the bride.)

melb2013

We just sent ours out.  We sent one per every person that would normally get an invite.  I felt like it was a test run for the invites.  

futuremrsgates

Okay, thank you!

banana468

Ditto PPs.   The rule exists because adults should be treated like adults.   That means that they should not be included with their parents on any invitations / STDs or other formal correspondence.