Should I let this go?

Ballet513

Hi, I was invited to a shower a few weeks ago and I didn't attend. However, I am close to the couple so I sent them a shower gift through their registry. I sent the gift 3 weeks ago. Today I was looking at my CC bill and noticed a credit from the store I purchased their gift from dated this passed Wednesday. I thought the credit was weird bc I hadn't returned anything at that store lately so did some research and realized my gift that I chose off the registry was not available so instead of notifying me I was credited (2.5 weeks later) and no gift was sent. The wedding for this couple is tomorrow. We are attending the wedding and giving a check in our card for a gift. Should I also include a gift card to the store they registered for and a note saying something ab sorry I missed your shower, heres a gift to go towards your new home together, or something along those lines? Or should I just forget about the shower gift since its past already. I can't send them anything else from their registry bc there are no items left un-purchased and frankly I don't trust that site anymore. Any thoughts on this? Thanks!

ETA: I meant to say there are no items left on registry in my price range for a shower gift (~$50)

aragx6

I would either do nothing or I would give an extra gracious check at the wedding. If everything has been pruchased off of their registry they probably aren't in need of a gift card from the store anyway.

bunni727

I think a gift card would be very sweet of you, but not necessary.

Stina51286

Have you mentioned the gift to her at all? If not I say either or. Typically if I cannot make a shower I do what you originally did but I buy it or order it and give it to someone else I know going to the shower. I don't exaclty trust the internet.

ceh789

Well first, that store sucks.  I'd just give them an extra nice wedding gift.

hannahmassey

If I dont go to something, I dont buy a gift. For baby showers, wedding showers, bridal showers, birthday parties, etc. If you attend the shower, bring a gift, if you dont, dont. Not a big deal. And no bride should expect gifts at a wedding. Just give the original amount you were going to give.

achiduck

Clearly that store sucks balls. I'd proably just add whatever you were going to spend on the gift to your wedding gift.

Kate61487

I agree that store sucks.  I think either way is fine; if you mentioned the shower gift to them previously and/or still want to give a shower gift I think it's nice idea to give a gift card (since you mentioned they still have some pricier items on there).

ceh789

I'd actually like to know what store it was so I can never buy off a registry there - what a horrible way to handle a registry purchase being out of stock.  

Ballet513

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_should-i-let-this-go?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:37962c0a-5be5-4717-8817-882d259858dcPost:d9f41773-e726-48fb-9657-1e72c7c7c356">Re:Should I let this go?</a>:
[QUOTE]If I dont go to something, I dont buy a gift. For baby showers, wedding showers, bridal showers, birthday parties, etc. If you attend the shower, bring a gift, if you dont, dont. Not a big deal. And no bride should expect gifts at a wedding. Just give the original amount you were going to give.
Posted by hannahmassey[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I'm the one who is stressing ab the gift, not the bride. I'm very close to this couple and was bummed I had to miss the shower (it was my Grandma's 85th bday party on the same day). I really wanted to send a shower gift to show I was thinking of her on her shower day. </div><div>
</div><div>I didn't mention the shower gift to the couple but did tell the host I was planning to send a gift when I RSVP ed no to the shower. (not because she asked or mentioned gifts but because the host is actually my best friend and this brides sister)</div><div>
</div><div>I think I might just include the gift card w a note in the same envelope as our wedding card with our check. I feel really bad about the gift not being sent :( I was just worried that it would be "tacky" to include the gift card at all. At the same time though like I said I'm close to this couple so I don't think it matters if its a little weird that the shower GC is in the wedding envelope. Next time we're out to dinner I could explain why, we socialize with this couple a lot.</div><div>
</div><div>Thanks everybody for your advice, and I agree that store sucks. 

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mdeidre

If you do include the gift card, I would actually explain to her that you had originally ordered something off of the registry and the order had been canceled so the card is so to go towards their other items.  She may want to know that the store did that.  I hope it's not the place I work for, lol.

MyUserName1

I don't think it's tacky if you include a gift card at all.  But you can let it go without feeling guilty if you like.

Also, for what it's worth, you switched the words "passed" and "past"  It should be past Wednesday and the shower has passed.