Friend Invites

RUSerious101

My FH is struggling with what friends of his to invite to the wedding. He is part of a large circle of friends that routinely go out together but he really only calls a couple of them to hang out with them specifically, or sees them on a regular basis.
We are not even near the max amount of people to invite, so it's not that there is a restriction of who we can invite and who we can't, but we were trying to just invite people that we are really good friends with.
Should the other friends in the circle just understand that they aren't that close? Or because we still have more room for invites should they just all be invited?

Thanks!

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]My FH is struggling with what friends of his to invite to the wedding. He is part of a large circle of friends that routinely go out together but he really only calls a couple of them to hang out with them specifically, or sees them on a regular basis. We are not even near the max amount of people to invite, so it's not that there is a restriction of who we can invite and who we can't, but we were trying to just invite people that we are really good friends with. Should the other friends in the circle just understand that they aren't that close? Or because we still have more room for invites should they just all be invited? Thanks!
Posted by RUSerious101[/QUOTE]

<div>We had a similar situation with H's friends.  We made our cuts by going through the guest list and asking ourselves "if we were looking to make Friday night plans, would we call this person?"  If the answer was no, they were cut. </div>

AbbeyS2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Friend Invites : <strong>We had a similar situation with H's friends.  We made our cuts by going through the guest list and asking ourselves "if we were looking to make Friday night plans, would we call this person?"  If the answer was no, they were cut. 
</strong>Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

This is a good rule of thumb to use.  However, if you are being charged a minimun and need guests to get close to that, and you have already covered family obligations, then it would not hurt to add them to the guest list. 

graysquirrel

We're going through this as well. We have a large circle that meets for weekly happy hours and that we see at parties a lot. Some of them are our good friends, some are acquaintances that were introduced to us via other friends. If we have a birthday party at a bar or something, we invite them, but we've never hung out as couples or invited them for dinner or anything. We decided in the end to only invite those who we'd miss if we were moving or those we'd invite to an intimate gathering. If they end up asking us about it, we will claim budget & space restraints, which are true. But even if you don't have those restraints, why not claim them?

cara91997

Wow. I just want to say that is a great idea--to choose your friends based on who you would invite over on a Friday night. I never thought of it that way! All of the friends I invited, do fall into that category but we did have a hard time with this. After all of the family we invited, there just wasn't a lot of room left.