Thank you card question..

Gatorsgirl731

I had a couple at my wedding that were seriously dating.  They bought us a gift and signed the card with both of their names and childrens names (his and hers).  The guy is a friend of mine so she would be his plus one, although in gift giving I don't think this matters.  So I found out yesterday that they have broken up and she has since moved out.  Apparently they knew it was happening and had made the decision, but he asked her to come to the wedding with him. 
So...do I send a thank you to just him, or do I hunt her down and get an address and send one to both?

J&K10910

If you can get an address for both, I would do that.

Gatorsgirl731

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[QUOTE]Send one to each of them if at all possible. I'd bet he has a forwarding address for her.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

I think she is on my friends list on FB, maybe I should try to message her.  Shlit this may be awkward.

itzMS

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Thank you card question.. : I think she is on my friends list on FB, maybe I should try to message her.  Shlit this may be awkward.
Posted by Gatorsgirl731[/QUOTE]

I don't know. While I am usually a big fan of making the effort and hand-writing out a note to every gift giver, this might be the one exception where a simple email or FB message would be OK.

Especially because you are not real life (non FB) friends with her if she had not been with ex-BF. So I think ASKING for her mailing address is a little weird, perhaps she doesn't want ex-BF or his friends to know it or it would just rub in the fact that she doesn't live with ex-BF any longer.

"Dear Suzy,

DH and I are so honored that you and (kids name) could attend our wedding. Thank you so much for the beautiful gift of (insert gift here). DH & I are planning to use it for (insert super great thing here). You are in my thoughts, and thank you again for your generosity.

Best Regards,

Gatorsgirl731"