Parents/Step parents

samrae12

My parents divorced when I was 2 and have recently gotten remarried. My stepmom is not someone that I am particularly close to and I am only having here at my wedding to please my dad. My step dad on the other hand is very important to me. He and my mom dated before she met my dad and they recently got back together and married. He has been very supportive and will pay for quite a bit of my wedding. I really want to involve him and will probably do a father/daughter/stepfather dance where I dance with my father the first half and my stepfather the second half. Would it be rude if I did this for my stepfather but did nothing for my stepmom? If so what small gesture could I do to make her feel included.

jessienjeremy

It's your wedding. If you want to dance with your stepdad then go for it.  You can't help that you are closer to him than to your stepmother. I use to call my stepmother my stepmonster thankfully her and my dad divorced.

[Deleted User]

Get her a corsage. Or she can do a reading (Chrurch) or read a poem if it is a civil ceremony.

jessienjeremy

Oh I like horns idea. I think that would be very respectful. 

LoveMuffins

I've seen it where there were actually TWO Father dances, one with the bio-dad and one with the step-dad. I wouldn't ask your dad to split his dance in half, but having a diff dance with your step-dad would probably be really sweet. Just make sure they're both short songs =D

As to your Step-mom, really during the reception and everything the MOB doesn't do that much, so I don't see why you would need to do anything to "include" your step-mom other than having her in the processional and the pictures, etc. If you would like to ask her to be a reader, that's one way, but since your Mom will just be sitting and happily watching, I don't know why you'd feel like you have to do something extra for your stepmom.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

We gave flowers to my step parents. They got to walk in with the parents and wear bouts/corsages. However, only my actual parents were listed in the program. We didn't do parent dances.