"Bridesmaid Moms
I am marrying in June. I have four bridesmaids, and two of them have just told me they’re pregnant and their due dates are within days of my wedding. I’m happy for both of them, though disappointed that my bachelorette party will probably not be a screaming good time. I am also worried that they won’t make it to the wedding or help with the planning. How should I approach this? I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.
Alexis, Ottawa
Lead with happiness for the mothers-to-be: “What terrific news!” Because it is, right? Then, segue to your parochial interests: “But if your baby comes on your due date, you won’t be able to attend my wedding. Why don’t I find a replacement bridesmaid now? And if you can still travel on my wedding day, you will be our special guest.”
Hard to imagine anyone’s taking offense at that.
And don’t be so sure about that “screaming” bachelorette party, either. Perhaps you could schedule it for one of the women’s actual due dates — and persuade her to forgo an epidural?"
I think the advice is terrible, personally, and I would actually take offense.