I am having a really difficult time with our wedding planning and including my fiance's family. My fiance's parents passed away some time ago. He and his brother have since moved in with family friends. This was the "family" I met when we began dating. He considers this family his brothers, sister, ect. In addition, he's very close with his mom's sister and her family. Given his difficult situation, both families have been a huge support. I love them both dearly and truly consider them all to be his "family" or in the immediate "family" role for wedding purposes. His cousins, and his "brothers and sisters" are all in our bridal party, for example.
The problem is - I feel like I keep offending someone when it comes to planning. He's the oldest, so this is the first wedding for both families. As a result, everyone is very excited and wants to be very involved (which I think is great!). I am doing my best to include both families in everything, but I keep getting the feeling like I'm offending one family or another. For example, I sent his aunt and the mom of the family friends pictures of my dress when I bought it in a group text, and feelings were hurt.
Has anyone dealt with a situation like this (maybe divorced parents, step parents...) that has any advice. It's getting very stressful worrying if I'm hurting someone's feelings anytime I try to make progress in our planning. More than that, I want everyone to know how much they mean to both of us and want them to feel included.