Just venting. So the for the last 2 months my family have been more than patient and understanding and I biting my tounge at times, but today I almost came out of the box.
When this all started I was miffed a bit over the arrangents of DD FI family, got over it. So I thought. This is a DW for both sides fo the family. I had asked DD 6 weeks ago along with other of my family members asking her to see about room rates and blockng rooms. We were originaly told they would get us answers the next week. They didn't have the time, ok no biggie, weeks went by. I suggested DD to assign that duty to someone else she said no she will do it. They went on vacation for 4 days as well. So we waited again, for another week then 2 weeks, she also e-mailed family several times stating when she or the FI was going to get rates. So, again family was patient. My sister found this one place she was very interested in, but was waiting for DD's answer as DD said via e-mail to her. I also have my parents who are 71 & 72 driving 1200 miles because the dr. said no to a plane. I will also add this is a small town with only 2 motels/hotels and 1 B & B.
Earlier today, DD called me and said she wasn't going to do OOT welcome bags, that they will get what all others get, because of the expense she didn't want to do it. I told her I would pay for them and the contents, and I how I felt they realy needed to be done, she said no, we had a little riff over the phone while I was at work, because she called me there to tell me this! So I decided I would get them made up for my side of the family when I got there. All day I was so upset over the attitude she dispalyed, like oh well they don;t have to come! excuse me? what?? They already have the plane tickets car rentals reserved all of it. Just waiting to hear back on hotels.
to top it off this was what was next:
Now 5 weeks to go, still nothing on hotels. So after work today, I took the bull by the horn spent 4 hours and made all the calls. Here the place my sister had her heart set on was all booked. By guess who? Yes, his family! The ones who don't have a free place to stay. I am so beside myself. We have a very small family his is huge. I found out one of his buddies got the info for his family and DD knew this happened. We are now stuck with the cheap yucky motel.
Then I find out DD & FI paid for 2 of the bridesmaid dresses, I feel if they paid for 2 they should have offered the same to the other 5! The 2 they bought the dresses for are local. She also has my 2 neices in her BP that have to buy the plane ticket hotels and car rental. I had no problem with that initionaly because they knew that was one thier dime when they accepted this role, both college students. Well until I found out about the 2 dresses they paid for for others. I flipped! DD MOH told me that tonight.
There were other things but not major and those don't bother me but these 2 things just bugg the heck out of me.
My family has done nothing but love my DD and helped her tremendously in alot of areas, and I just feel that this is way wrong for her to turn her back and accomidate FI family and 2 of her BM.
I have kept myself in check and daughter has done so as well but things are adding up and I don't like what it equals to. Any suggestions, am I wrong to feel this way?
I have refused to pick the phone up when she called a few times tonight. I just can not talk to her for fear I realy may say someting I shouldn't.