Long(er) Engagement than Intended?

AmberNEnglish

  My Fiance' and I have decided to push our wedding date back (no save the dates or anything were sent..merely conversations with eager family and friends). It's not a question of whether or not we want to proceed, but life circumstances have gotten in the way. We'd like to get ahead of any misconceptions without inviting our entire family into our wedding planning process. Is it appropriate/worth it to let everyone know that the timing isn't what we initally planned on? Or would it be better to just stay quiet about the change in plans? 

   At first I thought about an engagement announcement that subtly slides in a (gasp) 2015...but since really, everyone knows we are engaged I thought that might look strange. 

  Thanks for any guidance!  

nextrightthing

It isn't inappropriate, but it probably isn't worth it either.  I would stay quiet unless people ask.  Otherwise you are inviting questions and comments.  I'm guessing the closest people will know (e.g., your parents) and they will spread the word.  The exception would be if anyone has already started making travel arrangements.

QueerFemme

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[QUOTE]  My Fiance' and I have decided to push our wedding date back (no save the dates or anything were sent..merely conversations with eager family and friends). It's not a question of whether or not we want to proceed, but life circumstances have gotten in the way. We'd like to get ahead of any misconceptions without inviting our entire family into our wedding planning process. Is it appropriate/worth it to let everyone know that the timing isn't what we initally planned on? Or would it be better to just stay quiet about the change in plans?     At first I thought about an engagement announcement that subtly slides in a (gasp) 2015...but since really, everyone knows we are engaged I thought that might look strange.    Thanks for any guidance! :) 
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I wouldn't do a formal engagement announcement.  When people ask you about wedding planning... respond with "We are going to have a long engagement. We are thinking about a wedding in 2015, We will keep you posted!"

Jen4948

I'd just keep quiet about dates.  If someone asks, I'd just tell them that you and your FI are still working out the date.

AddieCake

There's no reason to say anything to anyone unless they ask. My husband and I were engaged for a year before we even began talking about planning the wedding b/c the thought of planning overwhelmed me and I wasn't ready to deal with it. When people asked, we said we were just enjoying being engaged for the time being and would start planning when we settled on a date. 

girl4182

I would keep quiet about it. If someone asks you can say that you opted for a different date so that you didn't feel like you had to rush things and could enjoy the planning process.