Invitation - How do I address these?

chuygrl77

I have two or more girls who are friends with the FH and me.  They have both moved in with their boyfriends.  Do I address their invitations with them first because they are the main person we want to invite or do we address it to the man first?

Option 1: Friend first and name boyfriend by name?
Ex. Ms. Jane Doe & Mr. John Public?

Option 2:  Boyfriend first and Friend Second?
Ex. Mr. John Public & Ms. Jane Doe
 
Option 3: Friend first and just add "guest" instead of naming guest?
Ex. Ms. Jane Doe & Guest

Also, we have friends who are engaged and will be married before us.  Is it ok to address them as Mr. & Mrs. John Doe before they are actually married? I would think it's not ok but the FMIL said to go ahead and address it as such.

Calypso1977

Mr. John Public
Ms. Jane Doe

as others said, "and" indicates married.

the invite shoudl be sent to the couple in teh names tehy are using at the time the invite is being sent.  they are not mr. and mrs. john doe, they are still mr. john doe and ms. sally jones until their wedding.

squirrly

Ditto Dani & MyNameIsNot.

chuygrl77

Thanks everyone!  Everyone had a pretty uniform answer so I'm happy