How to invite co-workers and staff

vitacosmopolita

So my job is weird in that my co-workers are located in other cities anywhere from 1-3 hours away. We see each other for meetings and I am actually decently close with half of them because I used to work closer, but moved to where I am now.  But in the past year, people have quit, been laid off, etc. So there are the people I want to invite that no longer work for the company, people that still do, and then a few people I hardly know because they are new (6 months or less at this point)

My boss and mentor helped my fiance orchestrate my proposal so they are givens.  They are also friends on facebook.  

Thing is my STD's are going out this week and facebook friends are guaranteed to comment, oh I got your cards. I don't want people to think I am not including them, I just don't know how to approach this soon enough.

How do I invite my co-workers as a group? Do I have to include spouses? OR Can I just invite the people I am close to?  It's not like I can put an invite or save the date in the office, since there are about 10 offices...

Also, I manage about 25 people. Is there any proper etiquette for if I wanted to invite a couple of them?  Otherwise I will do none...

Thanks so much! I see co-workers tomorrow, and I want to at least bring my boss a save the date.

vitacosmopolita

THANKS everyone. I can tell its very mixed about the co-workers situation. I think tomorrow I will try to talk to my boss alone and see what she thinks in regards to my other co-workers. As one of you said, I would not hang out with about 1/2 of them, so why invite them?

And spouses-- I'll try to go back and find that other post.  In my case, these people all get along, so I don't think they would bring a date anyhow.

Ugh, facebook love and hate it. There will be at least someone, who will be sure to say something. My fiance knows a crapload of people  who assume they are invited because they played video games together 3 years ago. So I am sorta prepared with my knowledge from the boards for how to deal with them and my "circle" of facebook friends that might respond.

As for the staff, yeah 25 is A LOT of money, but I actually see them everyday and working with mainly women a lot of them are interested in the wedding stuff, etc.  But I think they will understand.