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Mother/Daughter Father/Daughter dance predicament.

All the time growing up, when I thought about my wedding, I knew that my mother and grandmother would be the ones to give me away because my mom raised me as a single parent and the two of them are the most important people in my life. I also planned on having a mother/daughter dance instead of a father/daughter one, for the same reason.

Now in the last 3 or 4 years, my father has reentered my life. I don't feel that he's playing that big of a role, we visit on holidays, but that's about it. Thing is, I don't want to offend anyone. Part of me wants to go ahead as planned, but another part was thinking to do both with a much more meaningful song for the mother dance. Though, not sure I could find a not so strong song for my dad... Do those even exist?

Anyway, what are some thought on what I should do??

Re: Mother/Daughter Father/Daughter dance predicament.

  • I would either continue as you had planned, or cut out those dances altogether, if you're uncomfortable with the idea. 

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  • I cut the father daughter dance out.  I have a what can be nicely described as "tolerable" relationship with my father.  FI and I just decided to cut all the "spotlight" dances out except for ours. 
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  • I think you should proceed as planned with your mom and if you so choose, can have a dance with your dad later in the evening (but not as a spotlight dance, just as a general dance). 
  • I agree with Erica and Rachel- you don't have to do any of the spotlight dances, but you can reserve a special song to find your father for. I don't plan of doing any spotlights but for Me and FI
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  • Thanks guys. You all are a big help!! I think I like erika's idea the best; I plan on keeping the spotlight dances, mostly because the FI is very close with his mother as well. Of course whether we do that or not is totally up to him. :) I do like finding dad later and dancing with him. I think that will work out well. Thanks again you guys! And for rest of you still getting ready for the big day, good luck!! :D
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