Hi- getting bored/anxious

DoubleLL1118

I have lurked here a while, only posted a couple of times. I have learned some things from these ladies and I truly I appreciate it. I have realized also that some people get defensive about the answers that are given, because they are direct and blunt. (personally I like that, straight to the point) I have also realized that even though I may not agree with everything etiqutte wise, doesnt mean that the things I do not necesarily agree are not against etiquette. None the less. I appreciate all the advise that is given and thats the reason people should post, or not. Either you want advice or you dont.
Anyway, I appreicate it otherwise I would not continue posting or "lurking" here.
 I realized when I first posted I have not introduced myself. I am getting married on June 21st to the love of my life(who isnt getting married to love their life right?), that I never thought I would find after a horrible break up with my childs father. (we now share 50/50 custody and everything is GOOD- I would now think of my daughters dad as a friend than a baby daddy (hate that phrase).
Anyway, here is my rant. Anyone else getting sick of wedding planning and wish they would have planned the day sooner than they did, or smaller, or more intimate? Or even rather, bigger than they did, etc?
I am almost 3 months out. And I just want to be married to my fiance already. Thats it. I just cant wait for the day to be here and be married! I think when I initially got engaged I was so excited to have a big party surrounded by friends and family and lost sight of Him and I. I wish my wedding day was today.
That is all.
Thanks ladies for all your advice on here

DoubleLL1118

And sorry, I just realized I posted in the wrong board, but this is where I posted last time about a cash bar and just wanted to say HI, and introduce myself on the board I previously posted in! Sorry about that!

harper0813

I absolutely wish my wedding was more intimate. I wish I'd refused my parents' money from the get-go (regardless of the fact that my dad's been saving up for my wedding since the day he knew he was having a daughter) so that I could avoid all these strings he refuses to view as "strings" and instead calls "strong advice". Honestly, there are times I wish I'd asked my fiance to wait to propose to me so that we could just be together, in a relationship, for another two years. I found out he cheated on me a month after we got engaged, and it ruined a lot of the excitement for me. The cheating happened a while ago, long before he was considering marrying me, but he had issues with emotional cheating (meaning: sexting. Seriously. And he's 28.) last year.

But the wedding is happening and set in stone and I would have forgiven him anyway, whether we were getting married or not. And our families are so excited about all of this that I'm trying to forget about what's best for him and me and just make our families happy.

I'm sorry to hear you're going through miserable custody issues. I hope that they're resolved soon and that you can enjoy this amazing time in your life and that you can have peace and happiness with your soon-to-be husband and your child.

Peledreamsofrain

Hi and welcome! Don't worry too much about how you currently feel, it's pretty common during wedding planning. Between trying to please everyone, trying to get the vendors to behave like adults, and getting all the details right, I wanted to scream about 3 months out. It gets better, promise.

DoubleLL1118

I dont know how to quote someone. But I strongly agree with "I wish my fiance would have waited to propose". I agree with you. I am not in the same circumstances for the reasons why. But I agree. I think my fiance felt pressured by me. I wouldnt constantly tell him to propose, but I guess I would say things like "when we get married..". He knew I really wanted to be married to him and he would have proposed to me anyway he said, but he knew I really wanted to be married to him so he asked me sooner. I hated hearing that a couple months ago when we talked about it. I wish I would have let it be his idea, his timing and didnt feel pressured to propose, when he did, by my future dreams.
I am sorry you are going through that. That is tough. I have been cheated on before as well. And did forgive him. It didnt work out like it sounds like yours is- but for other reasons. I wish you a fantastic wedding day!

DoubleLL1118

Thanks Pele,
All you remember is him and you right?! I hope so. My only hope is obviously that we end up married of course.... and the minimul it goes smoothly!

nycrose2013

I was engaged in November 2011 and wont be married til June 1st this year, so I am pretty tired of it too. Now that stuff is finally starting to happen I feel better about it, but the whole year in between was hard, because there was nothing even going on with the wedding but I felt like I should be super excited to be engaged all the time. I even told my hairdresser not to ask me about the wedding bc it was so far away and I didn't want it to consume my life for almost 2 years.

Now that I am just over 2 months out, I am so ready to be married and also go on our honeymoon! I have been planning this freakin trip for months!!

My wedding is pretty big, but so far I don't regret that. I am just more nervous because of it. One positive of my long engagement has been how solid our relationship has become, and how used to the idea of getting married we are. Also, I haven't been stressed because I booked everything ages ago.

Anyway, no real advice for you except hang in there, June is coming soon and maybe we will miss this time period when it is all over.

Peledreamsofrain

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[QUOTE]Thanks Pele, All you remember is him and you right?! I hope so. My only hope is obviously that we end up married of course.... and the minimul it goes smoothly!
Posted by DoubleLL1118[/QUOTE]

Yep, all the pre-wedding frustrations are just a slightly amusing memory.  We had a freakin BLAST, and the honeymoon is the most magical trip of my life.  I'm not one who uses that phrase lightly, or throws unicorns and glitter around.  But yeah, it was magic.

(ok my version of magic is challenge courses, horseback riding, river rafting, geocaching, and sitting up all night under the stars in a hot-tub drinking wine.  But it was magic dangit!).

DoubleLL1118

Yep, all the pre-wedding frustrations are just a slightly amusing memory.  We had a freakin BLAST, and the honeymoon is the most magical trip of my life.  I'm not one who uses that phrase lightly, or throws unicorns and glitter around.  But yeah, it was magic.

(ok my version of magic is challenge courses, horseback riding, river rafting, geocaching, and sitting up all night under the stars in a hot-tub drinking wine.  But it was magic dangit!).

That sure sounds like magic to me!!! I am jealous! Cant wait!

AJuliaNJ

We also had a long engagement. We got engaged in December 2011 and are getting married in July of this year. I would have had a smaller wedding for sure. I would have kept the bridal party to immediate family and my one best friend. I'm pretty laid back and thought the process would be, too. I am not used to so many people having so many expectations and demands over this one night. It's exhausting trying to keep all of these other people happy, included, and not offended. If I could start over, I would have wanted a destination wedding with just my FI.

DoubleLL1118

AndreaJulia,
are you bridesmaid causing you drama?

erinlin25

I'm a June bride too!  Totally feel you-- now that its getting so close, I just want to be done and at the wedding.  But I also know I need to enjoy it because its going to be over so fast and I only plan on doing this once.  Grateful I had a quick engagement--engaged in August; did small planning here and there at first (venue & dress) and then did not do much until after the holidays.  Now its just all coming together and there is no way I could have had a long engagement and wait for all of this to actually happen