registering for a second wedding

cheryladkins

My fiance and I are both in our 50's and our having a small ceremony and a larger reception..  Friends are telling me to register for gifts-- so that I do not end up with a lot of picture frames, etc.   I am fine with not gifts--but am told that people are uncomfortable attending and not gifting--

Any thoughts or unput from someone who has been there--- or is in this situation now?


CMK

Trifury2007

Been there.  It was a second wedding for me but a first for my H.  We did not register at first because honestly we already have too much stuff and really didn't need anything to start a home.  However, H took a lot of grief from his friends that we were not registered anywhere so we registered.  Those that gave him grief appreciated it.  Not sure this helps but it is what it is.

britne28

You don't need to register for pots and pans.  My FI, who has been married before, and myself, who hasn't, have an established household, so we are looking to register for stuff for our hobbies like gardening and cheese making.  And you can pick inexpensive items as a compromise.  Because you can tell people no gifts but like your friends said, you'll end up with a ton of picture frames or a bunch of stuff you'll have to have a yard sale for.

laurenclaire1386

Some people think registries for second weddings look gift grabby, but I think they're practical. The reality is, some people will want to give a gift, no matter how many times you've been married. You can create one small registry at one place for people who want to give a physical gift. As long as you don't go over the top and register for everything in the store, I don't see a problem with having a registry for the people who are set on giving a gift. 

redheadfsu

no real experince with 2nd weddings, but...

I say register (people feel bad if they don't get you something, or I do) - but for unusual things or things on the cheap side.

squirrly

I would do a small registry to either upgrade items you have or for fun/unusual things like ski equiptment, etc.  And leave it at that.  People will gift the way they want regardless of whether you register and it sounds like this will make your guests happer.

MyNameIsNot

Etiquette says no.  I definately think showers look gift grabby the second time around.  If you do have a registry, I would avoid putting it on websites or anywhere and only let people know if they specifically ask.

mandysmear

You'd be surprised how much stuff you can find, we were able to find a few items for those who wanted to give gifts.

ie. italian cheese knives
grind and brew coffee maker
a new knife set

you can always use more towels and sheets.  Well at least in my house we can!  Haha. 

Trifury2007

Etiquette says no.  I definately think showers look gift grabby the second time around.  If you do have a registry, I would avoid putting it on websites or anywhere and only let people know if they specifically ask.

I didn't think that she said they were registering for purposes of having a shower. I assumed it was was just for the wedding.

angie74

home depot for home repair? upgrades? I don't think it's that big of a deal.