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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_feeling-akward-with-engagement-announcements?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3f16c281-e48c-4400-952a-ff556911041bPost:88b97b04-f4b1-4c22-ab6e-02dc94b36c55">Feeling akward with engagement announcements....</a>:
[QUOTE]My fiance and I got engaged in February (4 months ago). Of course the day of, I called my mom, dad and grandparents and informed my coworkers and friends through facebook/email and in person. I saw my aunt and uncle yesterday for the first time since I had been engaged and I know that my mom had told them, but they said nothing about it. I kept seeing them look at my left hand out of the corner of their eye but not one congratulations. I realize I prob should have brought it up myself, but it was a birthday party and I didnt want to steal the spot light at all. So it never got brought up... Do I need to call them and tell them now? I feel terribly akward and a little put off by their behavior. What do I do??
Posted by smthibault86[/QUOTE]

I wouldn't do anything. I'm sure they know of your engagement. People are not going to congratulate you from the time your get engaged to the time you get married...it's just not going to happen...

Maggie0829

So what is the problem?

Like PP said, you will not get congratulations from the moment you are engaged until the day of your wedding.

Could you have brought it up, yes.  Could they have said something, yes.  But in reality it really doesn't matter.  Calling them to get a congratulations is rude.

smthibault86

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_feeling-akward-with-engagement-announcements?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3f16c281-e48c-4400-952a-ff556911041bPost:4d083da8-b641-4bd0-a2a1-7c8c164838fe">Re: Feeling akward with engagement announcements....</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Feeling akward with engagement announcements.... : Wait a minute.  You're upset because they didn't say congratulations so now you want to call them and tell them what they already know so they can congratulate you?
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

<div>I certainly do not NEED a congratulations from anyone, but dont you think if your friend/family member got engaged and you heard through the grapevine, that you would say something when you saw them next? </div>

mamahappy

I'm confused what the problem is really...you said you know your mom already told them so why would you call them to tell them again??  Yeah, it's sort of strange they didn't congratulate you, but I would not make a big deal out of it.  Just go on with your life as if it never happened.

crash2729

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_feeling-akward-with-engagement-announcements?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3f16c281-e48c-4400-952a-ff556911041bPost:83aa4a15-caeb-4fce-a4cf-7b5a988428dd">Re: Feeling akward with engagement announcements....</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Feeling akward with engagement announcements.... : I certainly do not NEED a congratulations from anyone, but dont you think if your friend/family member got engaged and you heard through the grapevine, that you would say something when you saw them next? 
Posted by smthibault86[/QUOTE]
Probably, but if someone didn't I wouldn't call them up and tell them to get them to say something about it. That's pretty AW-ish.

julibug86

Maybe they're upset you didn't tell them yourself?  It really depends on family, but the day after I got engaged, we had to drive around to all my aunts and uncles to show them the ring in person.  I know they would have been sad if they weren't told by us so I made my very chatty and excited mother promise to keep quiet until we got to them.

Katelyn89

I would wait until the next family function to casually bring it up, maybe mention something to them about wedding planning IF they are invited to the wedding. I would not call them up now and tell them. I think it would be an extremely awkward conversation and they probably already know.