They will arrive, right?

hoffse

RSVP date is Friday... we still have 48 separate RSVPs outstanding, most from FI's side.  He tells me his parents refuse to contact the non-responders if they don't send the little card back.  I know to wait until probably next Tuesday to start calling, since some will mail them on Friday.

I'm starting to get antsy about it though - did the married ladies have a huge deluge at the very end?  And what to do about getting phone numbers from FI's family?  It was like pulling teeth just getting addresses (took them 4 months).

TIA

fuerst37

We were missing about 25 of our RSVPs when the deadline came. (I think we got two in the last week.) It's really annoying to do that follow up, I know.

I'd probably call your fiance's family up now and let them know that you're missing some of their guests. It may be that they can start calling for you, although it seems like they may lack a sense of urgency. (Honestly, my mother had great luck with her guests via email, but to each his/her own.) Otherwise, that will give them a chance to start to get phone numbers assembled for you.

It's frustrating to get stuck with this task near the end, but congratulations on the upcoming wedding!



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[QUOTE]RSVP date is Friday... we still have 48 separate RSVPs outstanding, most from FI's side.  He tells me his parents refuse to contact the non-responders if they don't send the little card back.  I know to wait until probably next Tuesday to start calling, since some will mail them on Friday. I'm starting to get antsy about it though - did the married ladies have a huge deluge at the very end?  And what to do about getting phone numbers from FI's family?  It was like pulling teeth just getting addresses (took them 4 months). TIA
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daubachsgirl23

We got about 30 RSVPs back in the last week before the deadline and a few after the deadline.  Like PP said, let FI's family know now whose RSVP you're missing so they can start compiling phone numbers.

Good luck! 

hoffse

Thanks, ladies - I sent FI a list this morning of outstanding RSVPs on his side.  I told him we would wait until next Wednesday to start calling, since we will probably get a lot in the next week.  I told him to start compiling email addresses and phone numbers, though, just in case.

I've read about this problem over and over - it's just hard to be patient when it's your wedding!  I suspect it's going to be hard to get that info out of FI's parents, but maybe if he starts now...

vanityink

We weren't missing many by deadline time (this past Saturday) but of the 10 or so left, we did get 4 in the mail yesterday, and we expect a couple more today (for people who put them in the mail Saturday rather than sending them to us by Saturday). It's generally 3 days sending something across the country, I know, so we figured we'd start hunting people down after that for anyone who put them in the last day.

erinw13

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[QUOTE]Thanks, ladies - I sent FI a list this morning of outstanding RSVPs on his side.  I told him we would wait until next Wednesday to start calling, since we will probably get a lot in the next week.  I told him to start compiling email addresses and phone numbers, though, just in case. I've read about this problem over and over - it's just hard to be patient when it's your wedding!  I suspect it's going to be hard to get that info out of FI's parents, but maybe if he starts now...
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Girl I am right there with you! My wedding is the same day as yours. We sent out 100 invites and have only gotten 29 RSVP cards back! It is so frustrating and a little hurtful that people don't realize the time and effort and stress you have put into all of it.

AddieCake

Ours were pretty steady the whole time. I was most annoyed by the married people who failed to RSVP. Let your fiance get those phone numbers for his family.

hoffse

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[QUOTE]Ours were pretty steady the whole time. I was most annoyed by the married people who failed to RSVP.<strong> Let your fiance get those phone numbers for his family</strong>.
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</div><div>He's on it - just looks like it's going to be difficult.  Whitepages will work for some, but most are overseas guests.  His dad keeps saying "oh some of my siblings are coming" but he won't tell us which ones, and they haven't responded to my parents (who are hosting) directly.</div><div>
</div><div>We've also created a bit of drama by asking his parents to please not show a 15 minute slideshow of photos from FI's childhood during the rehearsal dinner.  Or, should I say, FI caused drama.  They're miffed now, but hopefully they will cool down before next Wednesday.  And yes, the slideshow was going to be of FI - they have not asked for pictures from me.  So FI put his foot down about that.  Gah I need to get to Jamaica ASAP.</div>

hoffse

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: They will arrive, right? : Girl I am right there with you! My wedding is the same day as yours. We sent out 100 invites and have only gotten 29 RSVP cards back! It is so frustrating and a little hurtful that people don't realize the time and effort and stress you have put into all of it.
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<div>Wow I'm so sorry - that's a terrible response rate!  And I agree with Addie, I'm most annoyed by the recently married couples who haven't responded.  It's like, you JUST did this yourself in the last year - don't you remember how much it sucked in the last few weeks?</div>

Vireyda

Technically, less than half of the RSVP cards never came back to us.  I only recieved 11 of the original 24 that went out.  I think since most of the guests coming told us verbally that they made their travel arrangements and are so excited about the trip/wedding that they didn't need to send the card back.  I was really looking forward to getting all the cards back in the mail though...I love getting mail. Sigh.

lindseymon

We were missing probably 30 on our RSVP date. It made me nuts! People are rude! My FI and I called people, texted and Facebooked to find out if people were coming. We didn't want to rely on his mom to do any of it.

QueerFemme

We got probably 30-40% of them the week of the wedding.