How did you know?

sfchick

I knew he was the one because there was no drama, no weirdness. I'd been looking for years and years (can we just omit how old I actually am?) and this was the first time that nothing bizarre happened. He was always on time and never gave odd excuses for anything. It just felt like he was family from the beginning. That little thing in my stomach that gives me a warning never went off like it did with other men.

I continue to tell my single girlfriends, if you are overthinking it or it seems like you never know where you stand with a guy, it probably isn't the right guy.

babyc20051

I knew he was the one when he took over being a daddy to children I had before we were together. And treated them like they were his own. And made all the pain I felt before him go away just by hugging and kissing me.

Pamers1

On a few different occasions I had the "feeling" that this guy could be the one.  It started with one of the first times we really chatted with eachother.  We actually met online and it was either the 2nd or 3rd time we chatted that he ended the conversation with "Good night, sleep tight and here is my number in case the bed bugs bite."  It was so cheesy but so cute I didn't really know how to respond!  After that he had gone on a family vacation for a week to visit both of his brothers in the military who were stationed on the East Coast.  During his trip, which he and his parents drove, we talked for hours each day.  We learned a lot about each other doing that!  I was so giddy every time we talked! 

Then it sealed the deal when he agreed to drive and meet me to help set up for my mom's suprise birthday party - we had only met face-to-face one other time before that!  Since then we have been pretty much inseperable!  He is truely my best friend!

jessiecole86

We had only been dating for about 3 months and we had plans to go camping with a group of friends. Well everyone cancelled but since we had already planned it and taken off of work we decided to go just us two. I am not an outdoors kind of person so I figured this weekend was going to go horrible. It started off great, we had a blast trying to set up the tent which ended up taking almost 2 hours because we could not stop laughing. Well on the second day it started storming and instead of everything go really bad and going home he packed everything up we went and got a room for the night and went to dinner and the movies. That was when I knew if he could make this bad experience(which for some who hates the outdoors like me it is really bad) and make it so much fun I knew he could make me happy for the rest on my life. We were engaged 4 months later and go camping once a year now.

MelissaJane28

There were many things along the way but the turning point was the way he reacted and cared for me when I had a medical issue.  I came out of it feeling that the ordeal was worth it because it truly sealed the deal that he was going to be there for me in sickness and in health.

andrea.v

because I never had to ask.

Suzielu1

AWWW OMG THATS JUST TOO CUTE

EmLovesDaveToo

Just about a month after we started dating, I went to visit my then boyfriend at his parents' house for the holidays. I got really, really sick. I had a horrible sore throat (to the point I could barely speak), felt achy and tired, and had a pretty bad ear ache. I tried so hard to pretend I felt okay, but couldn't hide it. I ended up camped on his parents' couch sipping chicken broth. I was so embarrassed and disappointed that I had ruined our special holiday together and made an awful first impression on his parents. I figured he was going to break up with me as soon as I left. I realized that I couldn't fly back to my house because I felt so awful, so I called my parents (who live only a few hours away from his parents) to come and get me. My fiance held me as I cried on the phone asking my parents to pick me up. He then told me that even though his parents have a rule about us sleeping in the same room, he was going to sleep in the guest room with me that night. He made me promise to wake him up if I needed anything.

It turned out that I had mono, strep throat, and a tonsil infection.

A few months later, we were discussing our future and when we "knew" about each other. He told me that he knew he wanted to spend forever with me when I was so sick because all he wanted to do was take care of me and make me feel better.

kris2131

Add me to the "I just knew" category. I've always heard that when you meet the right one, you just know. I didn't believe it until I met him. We met on match.com and it was comfortable from the start. We talked on Facebook for a couple weeks before we met in person and our first date was the day after Christmas last year. We sat down and looked at the menu and he made a comment about what I would be looking for on the menu and I found it adorable because he remembered a conversation we had.

And after 2 weeks of dating, he invited me to his sister's birthday dinner. We were texting at work when he asked me and he could tell I was starting to freak out a little bit because I thought it was too soon. He ended up driving over to where I work to make sure I was okay. He was only here 2 minutes because he had to get back to work, but just that he came over to make sure I was okay, was one of the moments when I knew.

After 4 or 5 weeks of dating him, I sent a text to a couple of my friends that said "I'm fairly certain I'm going to marry this guy" and in August he proposed in Love Park when we were in Philly. I later told him about the text I sent and he told me he knew very early on, too. So we both "just knew..."

mandidavis

There are a few things that made me realize very quickly that he was the one. First of all, on our first date he made me laugh so hard that I almost peed myself, and we spent every moment together from that day on.....And the big one is that when he first met my daughter, he Immidiatly treated her like she was his own  he feel in love with her, like he did with me.

novelblessings

 I think it was about two months after we started dating and we had spent almost every day together up to that point, Matt was going to Chicago for the week on a business trip. After he said goodbye to me and he was driving to the highway and I was driving behind him on my way back to my place, I called him and told him I loved him for the first time (I missed him already and couldn't wait to tell him in person 7 days later). I knew then I couldn't see myself without him at that point.

So last year when he was sent to Chicago on a business trip again, I took the train in and stayed with him the last couple of days he was there.

angeepangee

About a month into our relationship, I was heading to Reno for a friend's bachelorette party.  I had to leave my house at 3:30am to catch the flight.  As I was walking to my car, he surprised me by standing next to my car with a cup of coffee saying he wanted to take me to the airport.  The entire way there, I couldn't believe that anyone would do something as sweet as that for me! He said that he did it for selfish reasons b/c he wanted to be the last person I knew that I saw before I left the area.  When I got back, he was out of town but he came back that evening.  When I woke up the next day, there was a note on my car...he had driven to my house on his way home to leave a note that said:

"Most days of the year are unremarkable.  They end with no lasting memories made in between. Most days have no impact on the course of a life" - 500 days of summer

Hoping that today is not like "most days".  Hoping that your day is remarkable and filled with lasting memories.


That's when I knew...

Jennkp78

Similar to most posts, I just knew!  I actually knew on our first date, which was a blind date at that!

I wouldn't go on another date with my FI for two weeks after our first date, I just couldn't believe I had found him, the one, and how could I know it already...lol

He proposed a year later. :-)

butterflyroy78

I knew he was the one when he would ask me about things I had told him about previously. For example, my son had a holiday music production and he called to say good luck to him and he would come over with a new tea that he thought I would like or my favorite wine and cheese, with out me even asking! He would just remember. Now that we are living together, I know he is the one when he does nice things for my son (without even asking) or when he just holds me when I cry, even when I don't know why I am crying (PMS) and he will just hold me or get me tissues. He is just super sweet and I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him! I have NEVER been treated so well!

jen12_23

Previous relationships, I always was in it for the long haul, yet someway I would end up trying to find something wrong with that person, because I was just tired of being with that person and tired of the way I was being treated.  I have know FI for about 5 years, but when we re-met 2.5 years ago, my friend (at the time - long story) told me, you're only going to be the rebound.  At that point, I didn't care, so I went for it.  We were inseparable for 3 months, literally were together for 3 months straight.  When I didn't picture myself wanting to be with someone different, or trying to find the littlest thing that I could get rid of him, and the way he got along with my son, I knew he was the one.

siestaw

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[QUOTE]When we broke up for a week. Lol. Weird, but it was the worst break up ever. It was because he wanted kids and I didn't, so we decided to go our separate ways. I was miserable all week. With every other breakup I had a good cry and then it was off to the next step, but with him, I couldn't move past the feeling that something was wrong. He sent me flowers three days later, then after five days he told me he would rather be with me over having kids. That's when I knew it was just right. It's not something one can explain easily. This was just one moment out o many that I felt I could be with him forever. Funny thing is, I might have changed my mind about having more kids after seeing him with so many of our friends babies and how he acts around them.
Posted by alainn15[/QUOTE]

<div>I think its only fair that you changed your mind....that is so awesome :)</div>

siestaw

I actually didn't know right away. He was a friend, then he became my best friend and I got a chance to get to know him. After finding out about his character, what his priorities are and that we have the same values.

When I knew those things...I knew this is someone who isnt going to run for the hills when the 'love feeling is gone' because 'love feeling is fleeting' (aka infatuation)...someone who is going to be committed.

prettithia

I knew he was the one when I found how easy it was to communicate with him.
When he saw how miserable and fussy I was and he was willing to love me none the less.
When I saw how my family loved and accepted him
when I realised that no matter what anyone else thought, he stood by me, never letting anything or anyone determine the relationship he had with me.
The way he made me smile.
The fact that I loved him enough to help him grow

Aaaaaw so many things......

reason00

LOL...I'm not a drinker, so alcohol hits me, and when we were at the best man's bday party, I MAY have gotten a bit too drunk...long story short, I laid down which was worse and ended up vomiting and FI cleaned it and myself up. lol.

I remember calling up my mom the next day saying "holy f&*k, no one in this world would do that for me except you, mom!"

I think it all started to fall into place after that haahah...I hope the best man doesn't bring it up at the wedding.

jhmann

My fi and I have been together for 3 years and it just seems that no matter where i go i dont feell "at home" until i am with him. Like some ladies had said on here that there was no one definite moment but different moments that addsmore to the love i have for him. The time when i was freaking out about going away to university and us having to do a LDR he went to the store and pulled out a MUG root beer(my fav!) out of his pocket, then another one out of his pocket and then another until i laughed. I love him even more because he is so understanding in my relationship with my family. During the two years of dating i knew i wanted to marry him but wasn't ready to get married yet, but one day i just had this weird sense of calmness wash over me that he is the one that i watned to be with for the rest of my life and if he asked me to marry him i would defineitly be ready for it....low and behold...he asked me the next day at a park with my family there to suprise me as well with holding up the sighn saying "Will you marry me?"  

pisci1kn

It was strange because on our first date I felt like I was out with my bestfriend, I just felt so comfortable around my now FH  We ended up closing the restaurant down because we were talking for so long!  Then we went to a bar around the corner to grab a drink and finish our conversation.  We left there and sat in his car for a half an hour before I ended up inviting him into my apartment.  We stayed up until 3:30 in the morning just talking about random things. I wasn't sure about the him feeling like a best friend thing; I thought maybe we would just end up being friends.  But I quickly realized that it was actually a good thing I didn't have all those nervous butterflies.
But the first time I realized that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him was when we took a road trip to Toronto (we live in Michigan) after about 6 months of dating. We made such a great team: we had to use a map to get there since his GPS doesn't work out of the country. We had the best time spending the whole weekend together and exploring the city. Everything was just so easy and drama free! I just knew that I would never find anyone else as perfect as he was for me. He is the most amazing man I've ever met, and the only person I can truly say that I have wanted to spend the rest of my life with. With boyfriends in the past people would ask if we would get married, and I would always make a joke, saying 'if he's lucky.' With my FH it was a definite yes! He makes me feel so safe and like I can truly be myself around him; because he has the same goofy personality that I do.

reason00

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[QUOTE]He's my best friend.  And I can be myself around him.  And I think he's the sexiest man alive.  Plus he's an amazing dad... etc. etc. Yes I'm back, I have no willpower.  :(
Posted by xyrius[/QUOTE]

Is that a cat in your photo? LOL BIIIIG

[Deleted User]

I still remember the day we met.  And so does he.  I was 19, working as a community advisor for the residence building at my college.  I decided to knock on my student's doors to introduce myself, and he was in the furtherst room on my floor.  His was the first door I knocked on, this gorgeous guy answers the door, and I can't help but smile and say "Hi" He returned the favor, and then we ended up talking in the doorway forever, he invited me in and I hung out in the kitchen with him and his roommate.  We talked for about three hours. 

I never did get to introduce myself to any other rooms... *laughs*

After that, we became best friends, spending three or so nights a week walking and talking, getting to know each other.  Teaching each other new recipes and chemistry.

It still took us about four years to start seeing each other because we were both dating other people, and we eventually went two years without being able to speak because of that fact - but I know we fell in love that first year and stayed in love from that point on, even through two years without contact.  I suppose this is us making up for lost time!

Aurora Cinderella 415

The night of our first "date" we sat in my dorm room watching a movie, then we talked for...ever. About everything. We had only known each other for about 3 weeks and hadn't really spent all that much time together before. Well, after we had talked he kissed me goodnight. I walked back to my room and told my roommates that this was the man I was going to marry. They thought I was kidding.
Even then I had some doubts myself, but we spent three summers LD where he didn't have a phone and we were several time zones apart, so we never had much time that we could talk. For some reason, though, he never had a problem with staying up late even when he had to be up early the next morning
After the first summer apart, when we were reunited, I think we both knew that the other wasn't going anywhere.

pickled kitten

The first night we met ,our mutual friend said something about how awesome spider man was. At the same time we both blurted out "PFFFT....BATMAN is the better hero!"

We smiled at each other and he asked me why I felt that way. I explained I like the fact that Batman is a self made hero. No spider bites or radiation or mutations....just a dude with money and a will to make criminals suffer. He looked shocked and said he couldn't have said it better himself. We haven't been apart a day since. That was three years ago this month!

[Deleted User]

I knew I loved him when he became the first person I wanted to share good or bad news with. I used to call my mom or one of my best friends now I call them second. My fiance is my best friend. Towards the end of our senior year in college, I started to job search and plan for the future. I'm pretty independent so I knew he was the one when I realized all of my future plans included him.

[Deleted User]

WARNING! SUPER LONG! It seems like every day I'm more and more sure, but his little memory always stands out:

One night, while we were still dating, we were eating dinner at my mom's house. During dessert my mom disappears and comes back from the daily printing journal I kept for school in grade three. As we were flipping through, laughing about how I drew cats with eight legs and wrote incessantly about Sailor Moon, we came to an entry that said,

"Tomorrow is the Valentine's day dance! I am so excited. Mom bought me a brand new dress. I can't wait!", and there was a picture of me in this pink dress with pom-poms (I was a nerd).

The next entry was a picture of little-me crying and it said "I hate dances I am never going again." See, what happened was this cute boy (you know the one, THE cute boy!) asked me to dance but as we got to the middle of the gym floor and I held out my hands, two of his friends dumped ice and fruit juice over my head. I ran crying out of the room.

After I told this story to FI we left, and as he was driving me home I was feeling pretty sad. I was remembering all the childhood and teenage experiences I missed because I was so used to being treated cruelly that I stopped trying. As he pulled up in front of the college residence, he took my hand and said, "Will you go to the dance with me?"

Stupidly I asked, "There's a dance?" And he answered, "Yes, at your place in an hour. You should go get ready." He smiled and left to do errands. I ran inside and did my hair and put on my nicest dress. I composed a play list of all our favorite slow songs, lit some candles, and waited. When he knocked on my apartment door an hour later I felt my heart go crazy. I opened it up and he looked speechless for a second. He said, with the most sincere and awed tone I'd ever heard, "You are so beautiful."

We slow-danced all evening, at our own private dance in my dorm room- him holding me and gently admitting that he couldn't change my past, but he wanted to be my future- and me feeling more beautiful than I ever had before. And that was on of the moments when I knew for sure that this man was the one!

lpolak

We dated a few times over a course of three weeks then he asked me one day what I thought about being his girlfriend because he'd really like that.  A few weeks later I came back from a long trip up to my mom's and he sent me to his laundry closet because I had "left a sock in the dryer" the last time I did laundry there and he didn't want me to forget it.  When I opened it up there was a vase with a dozen pink roses in it and when I asked what they were for he told me it was because he had missed me this weekend (we were apart 4 days which we hadn't been apart in weeks).  That night was the night I realized how much I loved him but it grew even more when I found out I had to have surgery about a week later and he refused to let me go alone, but took off work to be there with me.  I told my mom the next time I saw her that I was going to marry him.

jessicalynn1988

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[QUOTE]Fishy, your husband sounds like the most adorable person ever. I knew pretty early on, and this may sound strange, but I knew he was the one when I had no interest in anyone else.  I have always developed crushes on people, even when I was in relationships (I never acted on them, though).  I would develop a crush on someone, then lose interest quickly.  But after I met Alex, no one else even crossed my mind in that way at all. 
Posted by cengle[/QUOTE]

This is exactly how it is for me. Other guys just fail to capture my attention like that, it's so strange because I always noticed attractive men and now, even 2.5 years into our relationshpi, I just don't anymore.  It also hit me when (we're in a 3hr LDR) I was going over expenses and realized I was spending $80+ a trip and didn't even flinch. I'm a typical "poor college student" and it's just like...I don't even care!

sabbiel89

For me it really hit me in one day.  I knew I loved him and I wanted to be with him forever, but on the day of my grandpa's funeral when I went up to give my eulogy, I could see him balling his eyes out.  My fiance never really met my grandpa (he was already sick by this time) but he was so sad just because he knew how sad I was and I knew that if someone could be hurt that much just from seeing me hurt, then he must really love me and I knew I would spend the rest of my life with him.