Wedding Announcements

lauraanne9

Yes?  No?

Does anyone, and I am guessing someone will, know the etiquette of them and what the deciding factor is on whether or not they should be sent out?  I'm not finding anything difinitive online so I was hoping someone here either has an answer or knows where to look for the info.

Thanks all you brilliant ladies!

DramaGeek

DIitto Duds.  I've only seen an announcement once.

If you're having anything more than a small, immediate family wedding, I don't think they're necessary.  Otherwise they come off a bit like a consolation prize.

zizibet

PP is correct. They should be sent out directly after the wedding. They are ususally sent to family members and/or friends with whom you keep in touch but were not close enough to be invited to the wedding.

AroundTheBlock

They should be sent out immediately after the ceremony, only to people who were not invited. The wording and style should parallel the wording and style of the invitation; so for a formal wedding the announcement might read:

Mr and Mrs John Smith
announce the marriage of their daughter
Jane Mary
to
Mr Thomas Jones
on Saturday the twentieth of April

For an informal wedding, instead of announcements you send quick hand-written notes letting people know that "Tom and I got married last Saturday". For a super-casual net-gen style wedding, you just change your facebook status.

You need to send them to anyone who might need to know of your change in social status. You have no doubt read numerous posts from brides wondering "how do I know whether so-and-so has a significant other and if so what their name is?" Or read complaints that go "So-and-so invited me but didn't invite my husband; wasn't that rude?". If a hostess never received an invitation to your wedding, and didn't get an announcement, then she cannot know for the future how to invite you to anything formal.

Of course, if you never receive formal invitations from anyone anyway; or if you invited every single one of your friends and relations; or if you couldn't care less whether people get your changed name right on next winter's Christmas cards, then you don't need to send announcements at all.

lauraanne9

Thanks for the information.  I was leaning toward not sending them at all.  They seem, at least to me, to say "hey you were no tgood enough for the wedding, look what you missed".

ginadog

Well what if you wanted to use professional photos?  I would like to.
It can take 6 weeks to get profession photos back, which I'd want to use on an annoucement.  Plain old worded annoucements are not very exciting.

I think annoucements are fine for elopements or small weddings.

I have only seen photo annoucements actually.  Shutterfly also has a ton of templates.