Wedding Gift Etiquette Question

NikkiRae

A family friend was invited to my wedding three years ago.  His parents and brother were also invited.  Between the three invites (six people total) we received $1200 in gifts.  

He gave us $400 himself.  I won't be able to go to his wedding because of the date of it.  Do I still have to reciprocate with a $400 gift?

Thanks!

brilibby4

Nope.  Give what you can/feel comfortable spending.

squirrly

Nope.  You give what you can afford to give, what you want to give, what you feel is appropriate.  If that's $100, $400, or $1000, that's up to you. 

Beachy730

Personally we kept track of what eveyone gave us and will use it as a reference for future weddings.  We just don't want a situation like that where someone gave us $400 and we only gave them $100 or something like that.  However, $400 is a lot of money, and not everyone has that much at their disposal to give as a gift.  Give what you can afford and want to give.  If its $400 then make it $400.  if its only $200 then so be it.  But people understand that not everyone has the same financial situation as them.

JennaV26

You don't have to reciprocate gifts at cost value. People are in all types of varying financial situations and certainly can't expect everyone to match the gifts they give to the gifts they receive value-for-value.

lizarellie

Christ I hope people are giving me $400 a pop. 

ThePinkSuperhero

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-gift-etiquette-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:43aa8718-6612-46ad-8dd5-ef925d2bd602Post:2389ede1-c95b-4e72-8598-31453a6da6c4">Wedding Gift Etiquette Question</a>:
[QUOTE]A family friend was invited to my wedding three years ago.  His parents and brother were also invited.  Between the three invites (six people total) we received $1200 in gifts.   He gave us $400 himself.  I won't be able to go to his wedding because of the date of it.  Do I still have to reciprocate with a $400 gift? Thanks!
Posted by NikkiRae[/QUOTE]

Weddings gifts aren't a tit-for-tat situation.  Give what you can afford!

sarah0725

I know I'm definitely not at a stage in my life where I could afford to give $400 as a gift.