Invitations

crogerswashdc

I don't know how to word my invitations.  My dad died in 2010, so my mom is sending the invitations.  Is there a way to still address them from both my parents?  Is there any symbol or something I can do that woudl all me to keep his name there in memory of my dad?

chinofiesta93

My dad died in 2010 too - I'm sorry for your loss!

In my particular situation, my FI did NOT want his mom's husband (esentially his stepdad) to be on the invitation, so it was just both of our moms.

I think in general though, it's innapropriate to try to include your dad on the invitation. Instead, have a really nice memorial arrangement at the ceremony and/or reception for him.

Kate61487

I'm sorry for your loss, but there's not really a way to do this properly.  An invitation can't come from someone who's deceased.  You can do something at the ceremony in rememberance of him - mention him in the program, or in the prayers of the faithful if you're Catholic (not sure if other religions do that).  You can have something more personal that you carry with you - like a hankie or piece of jewelry that was his.

The invitation should read:
Croger's Mom
requests the honor of your presence / pleasure of your company
at the marriage of her daughter
Croger
to
Croger's FI
date / time / location

mlg78

What Kate said is correct provided your mom is the one paying for the wedding. I also lost my dad. There are dozens of ways to remember your dad at your wedding but on your invitation is not one of them.

crogerswashdc

Thank you for your feedback and your condolances.  I will find a way to remember him, my mom just feels awkward with just her name.  So I wish I could find a way to make that easier. I am getting married May 4th and I still haven't asked anyone to give me away because I just can't face the fact that dad won't be there to do it.  

JoanE2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitations-50?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:449ee6ef-34f2-4b47-bdb8-ce79df44b7b9Post:91785fe5-5dde-430a-9ac1-bc4b0319d63b">Re: Invitations</a>:
[QUOTE]Thank you for your feedback and your condolances.  I will find a way to remember him, my mom just feels awkward with just her name.  So I wish I could find a way to make that easier. <strong>I am getting married May 4th and I still haven't asked anyone to give me away because I just can't face the fact that dad won't be there to do it.  </strong>
Posted by crogerswashdc[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Keep in mind you don't have to have any one give you away.  Some people find that old fashioned.  You could walk in alone, with your FI or perhaps even your Mom.  Put a keepsake of your Dad in or around your bouquet.  He'll be watching over you.</div><div>
</div><div>As for the invitations, I agree w/ PPs, don't put his name on them.

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jennyd412

Sorry for your loss. You don't have to have anyone give you away, but you could have your Mom do it. My cousins did this as their Dad died before they were married

Loopyseven

Ditto the PP's.  Sorry for your loss.  If your mom feels funny being listed alone, you could always do a self hosted invitation: 

The honor of your presence
is requested at the marriage of

or use the phrase "together with their families" which is inclusive of your FI's family as well, although both of these indicate that you and your FI are the primary hosts of the event.  Nowadays though, paying =/= hosting so your mom may be okay with that.

I walked by myself down the aisle.  You could also have your mom walk you down the aisle.  Or walk with your FI if you are okay with seeing each other before the ceremony starts.  Pretty much anything goes for that situation.  There is no etiquette about who walks you down the aisle so do what makes you comfortable as I'm sure it will be a difficult walk for you without your dad.

MrsH86

I'm very sorry for your loss!

You could put:

'Together with their families

Jane Doe

and 

John Smith

invite you..'

or something simple like that without stating names?

RebeccaRMN

How about this?

Together with their families,
Elizabeth Jane Doe,
Daughter of Jon Doe and the late Sally Doe
and
Michael Jacob Smith,
son of Mr. and Mrs. Robert Smith,
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage.....