BM hair options

CFM102012

When I asked my BM's to be in my WP I told them to choose a knee length LBD. For hair I let them know that I would be getting my hair done at the salon where I always go and if they want their hair done professionally to let me know so I can make an appointment for them (I included the cost for a normal wedding updo). They have all decided to get their hair professionally done and I'm letting them choose what style they want. I told them that if they have particular style in mind to bring a photo so the sylist can see it.

Fast forward to a few weeks ago. FSIL (one of my BM) ranted for about 5 minutes about wishing I had just chosen a dress and told her to get it because she's had such trouble finding a dress that's dressy enough for a wedding and she'll still probably only wear it once.  In light of this, would it be okay to have photos at the salon on my wedding day of styles I happen to like as options/ideas? If they have something they like they can still do that. I'm hoping to head off any "Tell me how to have her do my hair" I can't afford to pay for their appointments which is why I'm trying to be as open as possible.

msuprincess04

Sounds good to me. You are offering suggestions if they ask for them. There's nothing wrong with that.

lyndausvi

I think it's a little weird.   Women generally do not have a problem telling a stylist how they want their hair.     Of course, you can offer suggestions if asked. I'm not sure I would have pictures though.   A bride giving unsolicited suggestions can come across as telling not suggesting.

Finding a dress sometimes is not as easy.  Although I find it odd she is having a hard time finding a LBD.

MrsGandthebeag

Who doesn't already have a LBD?  I would be psyched if I was in a wedding and someone told me that rather than going out and buying some ugly BM dress.  They have style magazines at most salons.  I think they could find something they like if they don't come prepared. I don't think you need to worry about it.

willywally5

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bm-hair-options?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:45144297-80d3-48c5-955b-b2b1461e94a0Post:0b273aa4-3bc9-4339-87c7-e864ba7afd49">Re:BM hair options</a>:
[QUOTE]Honestly, I wouldn't. As a BM, I would feel like I HAD to take the bride's suggestions because she's the bride. Your BM is being ridiculous, and honestly sounds like she's just looking for something to biiitch about. And if she starts complaining about having to pick out her own hairstyle like a big girl, the stylist should be able to provide suggestions, which will be based on your BMs hair type, facial structure, etc. and what will look best on her.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>Agree with Stage 100% on this ... </div><div>And seriously, who can't use a LBD. I am bascially a recluse and even I would have use for one! She sounds like a whiny-hiney!</div>

CFM102012

Thanks ladies. So glad I checked with you before starting a search for styles.  She is becoming that BM that except for details she needs to know I pretty much don't mention anything wedding related because I know she'll criticize. I was hoping that just saying LBD my BM's wouldn't feel like they had to go to a bridal store. The dress she ended up getting (the third one she found and liked enough) she ordered from DB because FMIL dragged her in to look.