Etiquette for Co-workers???

Lincolnmagoo

Hey there, I'm struggling with an issue! I work in a small company - there are only 10 of us. I'm closer to some people than others and would also prefer to not invite one girl in particular. The issue is, do I have to invite all or nothing??? I feel like I do with this small of a group, to not hurt any feelings, but the reality is I know some people a lot better than others. Also, not sure if this matters or not, but the wedding is 2 hours away from where we live.. so I would assume not everyone would come anyway. 

What is the etiquette on this!?

itzMS

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Generally speaking, inviting coworkers is a kind of a grey area etiquette-wise. It really depends on your profession, closeness of your office (do you do things together outside of work?), etc, etc. All or nothing is commonly the best approach. Also do not talk about wedding-related things while at work.

mlperkins12

I found myself in this exact same situation.  I really didn't want to invite one particular individual as well - I just sucked it up and inivited everyone.  My office is very close and to exlude some of the people would have been more hurtful than it was worth.  I'm pretty confident that they day of I'm not going to really notice that one preson and their spouse.

OliveOilsMom

crfb gave the best advice on this.  I would only add to not invite everyone but the 1 girl you don't care for.  That will get out.  Even if it happens to be a co-worker who does attend your wedding and afterwards asked why she didn't attend (especially if everyone else does attend).  You can always speak with the co-workers you do invite and ask them to not talk about the wedding in the office.

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I had a situation of three women who work together who probably assumed they would all be invited. We only wanted to invite one of the three. So we did give that individual a heads up prior to invites going out that they were being invited but not everyone else was. This way they didn't go into the office going "Hey are you going to the wedding?" If the others don't know, no hurt feelings.

nextrightthing

It isn't an etiquette requirement, but to avoid conflict later on, if you can afford it I would invite everyone.  I also work in a small office and will probably just invite everyone and their SOs.  To me, saving a few bucks isn't worth the possible side-eyes and resentment every day for eight hours a day lol.