Who pays for attendant's gifts?

CATIEV1224

My dad is paying for the wedding, but I am wondering who puts the monies out for the bridesmaids/groomsmans gifts?  Does that come out of the 'wedding' account or our own money? Just wondering......

mica178

I recommend that you pay for the attendants' gifts.

thesequel

Your attendants = your money

ootmother2

They''re your attendants.  You pay for their gifts

Tanq&Tonic

You can interpret it any way -- after all, it is a cost associated with the wedding.  But honestly, I would feel terrible if I asked my folks to pay for a token of appreciation from me to my closest girlfriends...

Carlos27

You should pay. This is a wedding expense, but since you have help for the rest, you should pay for the attendants' gifts.

Avion22

I guess this is something for you to talk about with your dad.

Attendants gifts don't need to be anything more than a nice, heartfelt, handwritten note thanking them for being your attendant.  However, if you're having a really lavish wedding and they only get a card, that would be a little odd...but tihs is certainly something you can save up for.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]I recommend that you pay for the attendants' gifts.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

Ditto. I think that is the least you could do if you parents are paying for everything else.

CassieeK

You should do that. It's wedding-related, but still kind of an extra, so I don't think your Dad should pay for it.

ajroark

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_pays-attendants-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4573a519-ae12-4299-8289-df720c13c4a5Post:2c0b712b-ede3-43d0-8bd8-9254c4f2b23c">Re: Who pays for attendant's gifts?</a>:
[QUOTE]You should do that. It's wedding-related, but still kind of an extra, so I don't think your Dad should pay for it.
Posted by CassieeK[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. It's not a wedding "necessitiy" so I would feel weird asking my dad to pay for it.

jemmini6

I definitely think you should pay for it.  You are lucky enough to have the wedding paid for by your family, the least you can do is pay for your friends' gifts with your own money.

b0710

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[QUOTE]Your attendants = your money
Posted by thesequel[/QUOTE]


yep, this.