I'm getting married in January. My sister is my MOH and her boyfriend of about 3 years is one of our groomsmen. He also has a daughter from a previous marriage who is one of our flower girls. My sister (MOH) has asked if she can invite her boyfriend's mom to our wedding. The problem is that I've only met this woman about twice and barely have a relationship with her. To further complicate things, we've already had to pare our list down and have taken off about 30 people from our guest list because we can't afford to have that many people. My sister did offer to pay for her bf's mom, but that's absurd - we wouldn't let her do that. Plus that's not really the point. We've already had our guest list set for some time now and even had to take out several people who we really wanted there (for example, several of my fiance's relatives and several of my friend's parents who I particularly like). We also are not inviting my brother's in-laws, so I'm not really sure how we can justify inviting my sister's boyfriend's mom when we're not even inviting my brother's wife's family. And we've had to exclude several other ppl who we would much prefer to have at our wedding.
To try and play devil's advocate here, it has been pointed out to me that it would be really nice for her boyfriend's mom to come to the wedding so she can see not only her son in the wedding, but also her granddaughter.
So, clearly, I've already made up my mind and really do not want to invite this woman. But I'd love feedback from others as to whether this is justified and within my rights, or whether I'm way off track here and the proper and only acceptable option is to invite her.
One last thing - we're completely paying for this wedding ourselves.
Signed,
Budget-Conscious but Wants to Please Everyone Bride