Not So Lady-Like

aquick55480

So my future Mother-in-law and sister-in-law are so gross. They burp so loud and gross all the time. I'm so embarassed to go anywhere with them. They do it at the table while we're eating, at home and in restaurants. And most of the time, they don't even say, "excuse me". My fiance's sister loves to lean over and fart whenever possible as well and she see's nothing wrong with it. She's 24 years old, single, so weird and has no friends. I honestly cannot stand the girl. I'm so appauled by them. I don't want them acting like this at our engagement party, rehersal dinner or wedding. What should I do? And these burps, they aren't suttle little things, they are in your face, not even tried to be held it, let them rip kind of burps. HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!

Nebb

Tell them exactly what you think of how they behave, you have to be 100% truthful though in order to get the point accross.

MeaghanandMichael

It sounds like this is the time for a nonconfrontational, honest talk about their behavior.

aquick55480

My fiance and I live with them, upstairs in our own little apartment.... now what?

Nebb

You need to sit them down, together, and let them know how disgusted their behavior makes you. Point out the exact things they do and how it makes you feel, and what you would like them to do to improve.

MeaghanandMichael

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[QUOTE]My fiance and I live with them, upstairs in our own little apartment.... now what?
Posted by aquick55480[/QUOTE]

I don't see how this changes anything. If anything, being honest with the people you live with seems like a better idea. You need to stick to your guns and not sound condescending but firm and concerned.
To be honest, I would be shocked if their behavior changes so you should prepare yourself for that and focus on other aspects of your wedding. You really can not be responsible for other people's behavior.

mocha beans

I'm with M&M.

If they haven't figured out by now that behaving like a pirate at the dinner table is only acceptable AT a pirate dinner table, they either will never figure it out or just don't care.  I would still bring the issue up, and say how you find their behavior completely unacceptable, but I wouldn't get your hopes up that they'll suddenly become prim and proper ladies.  As far as how to deal with it when they do it at dinners, I'm not sure how to go about that without being biitchy.  I know I would.