To Phone or Not to Phone...

mattileep

Just read this great article on The Knot "The New Rules of Wedding Etiquette" - so, how exactly do we ask our guests to put away their phones or not to post pictures or comments from our big day before we do? I have one girlfriend who is particularly rude with her phone at every social occasion and when asked to put it away, she always makes a loud stink. I would love to avoid that on our wedding day, and having her (and others) completely present would be a joy. Advice anyone?

kmbryant2413

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[QUOTE]Just read this great article on The Knot "The New Rules of Wedding Etiquette" - so, how exactly do we ask our guests to put away their phones or not to post pictures or comments from our big day before we do? I have one girlfriend who is particularly rude with her phone at every social occasion and when asked to put it away, she always makes a loud stink. I would love to avoid that on our wedding day, and having her (and others) completely present would be a joy. Advice anyone?
Posted by mattileep[/QUOTE]

<div>You don't. Either bring it up with her face to face and be prepared for an argument or hurt feelings, or just deal with it and don't look at facebook until you post your own pictures.</div>

misshart00

Short answer? You don't. You can remind them to turn phones on silent, but don't try to be so controlling that they can't even take a picture at your wedding. You won't even notice if someone has their phone out.

lyndausvi

::My eyes::

Anyway, you can put a small note in the program or your officiant can mention somethings. 


Although if your GF is that bad I'm sure she will ignore the request anyway.


On another note: I don't get this "I would love to avoid that on our wedding day, and having her (and others) completely present would be a joy comment.   

GoodLuckBear14

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[QUOTE]You can have a sign requesting no photos during the ceremony or have your officiant announce it at the beginning of the ceremony.  You cannot dictate no photos outside of the ceremony itself and you cannot tell people not to post photos THEY take on THEIR FB pages.  
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

This.  Your editorial control of your wedding ends where their social media begins.  This is pretty much a general rule for life these days.

mattileep

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[QUOTE]::My eyes:: Anyway, you can put a small note in the program or your officiant can mention somethings.  Although if your GF is that bad I'm sure she will ignore the request anyway. On another note: I don't get this "I would love to avoid that on our wedding day, and having her (and others) completely present would be a joy comment.   
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

<div>I only meant that it seems like people aren't fully present (aware, tuned in) - when they are distracted by their devices. Sort of the texting and driving thing. I know that the vast majority of our friends will be fully engaged and not tweeting or posting. I will concentrate on that.</div><div>And yes, I am so excited and happy to be getting married, I doubt that much will ruffle me that day. (-;</div>

winelover123

Honestly, I hate this thing. Have the officiant remind people to put their phones on silent and no flash photography. A friend had her wedding guest-picture free for the ceremony. I complied but hated it - her reasoning was also that she wanted her guests to be completely present. I am present when I'm taking photos and I felt like a chided kid when she told me that. I am perfectly capable of being in the moment while taking a dang photo!

misshart00

In Response to Re:To Phone or Not to Phone...:[QUOTE]Honestly, I hate this thing. Have the officiant remind people to put their phones on silent and no flash photography. A friend had her wedding guestpicture free for the ceremony. I complied but hated it her reasoning was also that she wanted her guests to be completely present. I am present when I'm taking photos and I felt like a chided kid when she told me that. I am perfectly capable of being in the moment while taking a dang photo! Posted by winelover123[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. And on the other side, I can be completely zoned out of something without a camera or phone in my hand.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To Phone or Not to Phone... : I only meant that it seems like people aren't fully present (aware, tuned in) - when they are distracted by their devices. Sort of the texting and driving thing. I know that the vast majority of our friends will be fully engaged and not tweeting or posting. I will concentrate on that. And yes, I am so excited and happy to be getting married, I doubt that much will ruffle me that day. (-;
Posted by mattileep[/QUOTE]


FYI - people will get distracted anyway.  I can guarantee I would not be fully engaged and I don't use a phone at weddings.   I look around, make fun of someone's entire (come on there is always one person who wears something that makes you go  "umm, what were they thinking").   I look at the roof line, pictures, whatever.   Point is, I agree with asking people to turn off the ringers on their phone.  I think it's silly to think they will be fully engaged once they do.

PrettyGirlLost

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[QUOTE]  You cannot dictate no photos outside of the ceremony itself and you cannot tell people not to post photos THEY take on THEIR FB pages.  
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

What if for professional reasons (i.e. security clearances) the bride and or groom do not use FB, and don't want to be tagged on FB by relatives and friends?

Could you request on your wedding website that photos not be posted or tagged on FB, and leave it at that?

I might not be communicating what I'm trying to get at correctly, lol.

ZiggyZos

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To Phone or Not to Phone... : What if for professional reasons (i.e. security clearances) the bride and or groom do not use FB, and don't want to be tagged on FB by relatives and friends? Could you request on your wedding website that photos not be posted or tagged on FB, and leave it at that? I might not be communicating what I'm trying to get at correctly, lol.
Posted by cmsciulli[/QUOTE]

If the bride and groom do not have Facebook accounts, they can't be tagged in photographs anyway, other than their name. However, if their job is so super duper secretive as to warrant concern about wedding photos on a social media site that they are not a part of compromising security clearances, friends/family should already be aware of the discretion necessary and/or the bride and groom probably shouldn't be having an incredibly extravagant affair with hundreds of people on attendance.


Put me on the "I don't need to turn my cell phone off to be engaged" party. Taking photos actually helps me stay engaged... Otherwise my mind tends to wander (ooh pretty flowers, what is that girl wearing?, did that guy just pick his nose? I wonder how long it took to decorate this place...)

PrettyGirlLost

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To Phone or Not to Phone... : If the bride and groom do not have Facebook accounts, they can't be tagged in photographs anyway, other than their name. However, if their job is so super duper secretive as to warrant concern about wedding photos on a social media site that they are not a part of compromising security clearances, friends/family should already be aware of the discretion necessary and/or the bride and groom probably shouldn't be having an incredibly extravagant affair with hundreds of people on attendance. Put me on the "I don't need to turn my cell phone off to be engaged" party. Taking photos actually helps me stay engaged... Otherwise my mind tends to wander (ooh pretty flowers, what is that girl wearing?, did that guy just pick his nose? I wonder how long it took to decorate this place...)
Posted by ZiggyZos[/QUOTE]

Security clearance was an extreme example, but I don't think trying to maintain privacy precludes someone from having a wedding or being out in public.  You are correct, people should know better in certain situations and yet we are constantly reminded when to turn our phones off i.e every time you go to a  movie.

On the flip side of the discussion, there are a number of cool crowdsourced apps that can be used to upload pictures from phones to a common account or album so that everyone can share pictures they are taking.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To Phone or Not to Phone... : Put me on the "I don't need to turn my cell phone off to be engaged" party. Taking photos actually helps me stay engaged... Otherwise my mind tends to wander (ooh pretty flowers, what is that girl wearing?, did that guy just pick his nose? I wonder how long it took to decorate this place...)
Posted by ZiggyZos[/QUOTE]


I do the same thing.   If there is a kid in front of me.  Forget it, I'm the one waving and such.   I do this at normal mass.   I also think I should have been an engineer, I'm always looked up saying, how did they make that arch?   How did they do that 200 years ago?   I'm bad.  It's not just weddings.   I should be tested.

PrettyGirlLost

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To Phone or Not to Phone... : That has nothing to do with photos, it has to do with a ringing phone disturbing others.  Even if you are taking photos with your phone at a wedding, you should have it on silent.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Well yeah, although once I saw a guy trying to film the movie on his iPhone.

Amyzen83

I sometimes hate fb and want to just delete my account because I want some things between myself and the people I am surrounded by, but I can't control what other people do or post. I honestly never thought about this issue. I'm thinking I might just politely mention on my wedding website something like: "We would greatly appreciate if we could have X amount of days including the day of the wedding to keep the event off of the social media.  We definately want to see all the wonderful pictures that were taken, but we also want some time to ourselves out of the public eye." Is that rude?

PrettyGirlLost

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To Phone or Not to Phone... : Yes, but that is a whole different thing than being reminded to silence your cell phone.  It's also a federal crime.   The point being none of those examples are applicable to photos at a wedding.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Yeah I was mixing apples and oranges when I was basically trying to say that people don't always have common sense.  There are other reasons why it's common sense not to post pictures of someone else's wedding, your own wedding, parties, etc all over FB, but that is OT.

I shouldn't have used the movie theater cell message as an example.  Back to taking pics on your phone at weddings.  .  .

Edit: rephrased message.

Anastasia517

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[QUOTE]I sometimes hate fb and want to just delete my account because I want some things between myself and the people I am surrounded by, but I can't control what other people do or post. I honestly never thought about this issue. I'm thinking I might just politely mention on my wedding website something like:<strong> "We would greatly appreciate if we could have X amount of days including the day of the wedding to keep the event off of the social media.  We definately want to see all the wonderful pictures that were taken, but we also want some time to ourselves out of the public eye."</strong> Is that rude?
Posted by Amyzen83[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Unless you're a celebrity, that is way over the top.  If I saw any of my friends or relatives talking about being in the public eye, I would roll my eyes.  They aren't famous so, frankly, people aren't going to be scrambling to find pictures of them getting married.  I'm assuming the same goes for you.

</div>

s-aries8990

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[QUOTE]I sometimes hate fb and want to just delete my account because I want some things between myself and the people I am surrounded by, but I can't control what other people do or post. I honestly never thought about this issue. I'm thinking I might just politely mention on my wedding website something like: "<strong>We would greatly appreciate if we could have X amount of days including the day of the wedding to keep the event off of the social media.  We definately want to see all the wonderful pictures that were taken, but we also want some time to ourselves out of the public eye." Is that rude?</strong>
Posted by Amyzen83[/QUOTE]

Yes it is rude. Why don't you just set your profiles to super-duper private? The second you invite someone to your event, it becomes a part of their life. If they want to upload it to Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest, or whatever, it's their prerogative because it's THEIR life too.

PrettyGirlLost

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[QUOTE]I sometimes hate fb and want to just delete my account because I want some things between myself and the people I am surrounded by, but I can't control what other people do or post. I honestly never thought about this issue. I'm thinking I might just politely mention on my wedding website something like: "We would greatly appreciate if we could have X amount of days including the day of the wedding to keep the event off of the social media.  <strong>We definately want to see all the wonderful pictures that were taken</strong>, but we also want some time to ourselves out of the public eye." Is that rude?
Posted by Amyzen83[/QUOTE]

One suggestion might be to use one of the crowdsourced apps I mentioned earlier, and put info about the app and how to use it on your website.

lovesclimbing

In Response to Re:To Phone or Not to Phone...:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To Phone or Not to Phone...:nbsp; You cannot dictate no photos outside of the ceremony itself and you cannot tell people not to post photos THEY take on THEIR FB pages. nbsp;Posted by StageManager14What if for professional reasons i.e. security clearances the bride and or groom do not use FB, and don't want to be tagged on FB by relatives and friends?Could you request on your wedding website that photos not be posted or tagged on FB, and leave it at that?I might not be communicating what I'm trying to get at correctly, lol. Posted by cmsciulli[/QUOTE]

FYI, there are settings on FB that allow you to untag yourself from photos. You can also prevent people from tagging you in posts and posting on your timeline. You used to be able to approve all photo tags too but I'm not sure if that's still available.

arrippa

You can set your FB settings so they need your approval to tag you in any pictures.

mattileep

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[QUOTE]You get to control a lot of things about your wedding. People taking photos and posting them isn't one of them. And I guess I truly don't understand why you care so much.
Posted by scribe95[/QUOTE]

<div>I guess, especially after reading averyone's responses. I don't care "so much." I do like the idea of the minister politely asking people to turn off their ringers during the ceremony, but we'll have to see how we feel about it in June.</div><div>As for people taking and posting photos - what I asked in my original post was is there a way to ask them not to post "before we do." Of course, I see now that we can't. I selfishly and I suppose unrealistically was hoping that the first photos that go public of our celebration aren't cell phone-quality shots. But....even that is a negative assumption on my part. Maybe they will be superb.</div><div>Thanks for helping me get clear that this is a minor concern.<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /></div>

mattileep

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[QUOTE]I've seen Pinterest-y signs asking for people to put their phones away.  Before our wedding Mass started, the musician asked people to refrain from flash photography (which is normal for our church).  People still did it. Nowadays, it's hard to get people to put their phones down (and I know I can be just as guilty).  If you feel comfortable talking with her, perhaps try that.  Otherwise, don't let it bother you.  HOnestly, you'll be so stinkin happy that you won't notice it.  I promise.
Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

<div>Thanks for this! I agree with your approach - especially the stinkin' happy part!</div>

lyndausvi

my galaxy 3s takes some really good pictures.  Just saying.

lauralaur

See, I was that bride scouring facebook as soon as I could find a computer in Costa Rica because the photographer wouldn't have photos to me for a few week and I couldn't wait to see how pretty I looked.

pokey730

In Response to Re:To Phone or Not to Phone...:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To Phone or Not to Phone...:In Response to Re: To Phone or Not to Phone... : What if for professional reasons i.e. security clearances the bride and or groom do not use FB, and don't want to be tagged on FB by relatives and friends? Could you request on your wedding website that photos not be posted or tagged on FB, and leave it at that? I might not be communicating what I'm trying to get at correctly, lol.Posted by cmsciulli

If the bride and groom do not have Facebook accounts, they can't be tagged in photographs anyway, other than their name. However, if their job is so super duper secretive as to warrant concern about wedding photos on a social media site that they are not a part of compromising security clearances, friends/family should already be aware of the discretion necessary and/or the bride and groom probably shouldn't be having an incredibly extravagant affair with hundreds of people on attendance.


Put me on the "I don't need to turn my cell phone off to be engaged" party. Taking photos actually helps me stay engaged... Otherwise my mind tends to wander ooh pretty flowers, what is that girl wearing?, did that guy just pick his nose? I wonder how long it took to decorate this place... Posted by ZiggyZos[/QUOTE]


As someone with a TS security clearance, I can say this isn't always true. My family and friends have a vague idea of what I do, but they don't truly understand the implications. A picture of me drinking can interrupt and raise questions during the investigation process for my clearance renewals. For these reasons, I don't use social media.


Of course, I have no idea how to prevent people from posting photos of me on social media, so for wedding purposes I'll probably have to suck it up and answer the character questions thay will inevitably come when my renewal is due.

STARMOON44

Oh come on with the security clearance.  If a photo of your drinking is going to raise questions, don't drink.  I doubt the rule is really "get drunk as often as you want as long as no one ever sees it."

QueerFemme

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: To Phone or Not to Phone... : I guess, especially after reading averyone's responses. I don't care "so much." I do like the idea of the minister politely asking people to turn off their ringers during the ceremony, but we'll have to see how we feel about it in June. As for people taking and posting photos - what I asked in my original post was is there a way to ask them not to post "before we do." Of course, I see now that we can't. I selfishly and I suppose unrealistically was hoping that the first photos that go public of our celebration aren't cell phone-quality shots. But....even that is a negative assumption on my part. <strong>Maybe they will be superb.</strong> Thanks for helping me get clear that this is a minor concern.
Posted by mattileep[/QUOTE]

One of my favorite wedding photos was taken with a guest's cell phone.  When my partner and I were walking away after the ceremony, our three flower girls ran up behind me and picked up my dress. It wasn't planned, but it was ridiculously cute. they looked like little ducklings. (see photo below).  We had a professional photographer and a second shooter. Neither of them caught this shot.   The moral of my story is.. your guests will usually end up with great candid shots. Just accept them and appreciate the fact that your guests cared enough to want to take photos of you on your wedding day.


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QueerFemme

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:To Phone or Not to Phone...: As someone with a TS security clearance, I can say this isn't always true. My family and friends have a vague idea of what I do, but they don't truly understand the implications.<strong> A picture of me drinking can interrupt and raise questions during the investigation process for my clearance renewals</strong>. For these reasons, I don't use social media. Of course, I have no idea how to prevent people from posting photos of me on social media, so for wedding purposes I'll probably have to suck it up and answer the character questions thay will inevitably come when my renewal is due.
Posted by pokey730[/QUOTE]

Um. Pokey.  Isn't that you in your avatar photo holding what appears to be a very large beer?

pokey730

In Response to Re:To Phone or Not to Phone...:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:To Phone or Not to Phone...:In Response to Re:To Phone or Not to Phone...: As someone with a TS security clearance, I can say this isn't always true. My family and friends have a vague idea of what I do, but they don't truly understand the implications. A picture of me drinking can interrupt and raise questions during the investigation process for my clearance renewals. For these reasons, I don't use social media. Of course, I have no idea how to prevent people from posting photos of me on social media, so for wedding purposes I'll probably have to suck it up and answer the character questions thay will inevitably come when my renewal is due.Posted by pokey730Um. Pokey.nbsp; Isn't that you in your avatar photo holding what appears to be a very large beer? Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

Sure is. In fact it came up in my recent renewal investigation. I'm the one with the clearance and didn't even think of it as an issue, so imagine how someone with no understanding whatsoever of security clearances might overlook the implications. Is it a huge deal? No, I just had to answer a lot of questions about my drinking habits, as did my family and friends who were used as references. I'm not implying that a picture of me drinking is going to strip me of my clearance, merely that if there's enough pictures of me circulating the internet it could raise some eyebrows.

QueerFemme

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:To Phone or Not to Phone...: Sure is. In fact it came up in my recent renewal investigation. I'm the one with the clearance and didn't even think of it as an issue, so imagine how someone with no understanding whatsoever of security clearances might overlook the implications. Is it a huge deal? No, I just had to answer a lot of questions about my drinking habits, as did my family and friends who were used as references. I'm not implying that a picture of me drinking is going to strip me of my clearance, merely that if there's enough pictures of me circulating the internet it could raise some eyebrows.
Posted by pokey730[/QUOTE]

Interesting. I would think if it came up on your clearance renewal, you would probably get rid of it, just to avoid further circulation of said photo.