Engagement party ty

alannamackenzie

I did a little research (followed the etiquitte board back to the last thread about engagement parties) but my question is a tad different. We mashed our engagement party with july 4th. Because we didn't have enough money for everything (and our families have repeatedly offered to help with all manner of things even if it isin't wedding related) we had a potlock. I even made the cake. My question is...in this situation, I need to send out thank you notes?

J&K10910

Send out thank you notes for...what?

Did you get gifts?  Then yes.  Are we talking for the people that provided food?  It wouldn't be a bad idea.

But...I mean, was it truly an engagement party?  Or was it a 4th of July party and you just so happened to have gotten engaged recently?

FutureMrsMDJahnke

Did you recieve gifts?

I am not sure on sending out TYs for contributing to a potluck...but I guess it makes sense!

melb2013

It kinds of sounds like you threw this party yourself.  If this is the case, then it wasn't really an engagement party.  If people brought you presents because you got engaged, then yes, you should send them a thank you note.

whitsy

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[QUOTE]I did a little research (followed the etiquitte board back to the last thread about engagement parties) but my question is a tad different. We mashed our engagement party with july 4th. Because we didn't have enough money for everything (and our families have repeatedly offered to help with all manner of things even if it isin't wedding related) we had a potlock. I even made the cake. My question is...in this situation, I need to send out thank you notes?
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I mean, I guess you could thank them for coming and their bean dip was delicious, can't wait to see you at the wedding type note, but unless they gave you a gift I don't see it being necessary.

alannamackenzie

We were originally going to have the party in early June, but the money situation wasn't ideal so we decided to combine a fourth of July party and an engagement party. But since everyone brought something, my question was more..should I send out ty for the dish they brought. We also wanted to have it because our families hadn't met yet and we wanted a more relaxed setting in which they could get to know each other. I don't quite understand though why it is that because we hosted it, it isn't an engagement party. I would like for our families to be able to celebrate with us...but I'm not going to expect someone to go out of their way to throw us a party..nor am I going to wait around and hope that it happens. 

alannamackenzie

Also, no one brought presents, we didn't ask for any, we haven't even set up a registry yet.