How much to shre with old friends

Sp2012

How do you handle this is a tactful way?  Over the holidays, it's common that I'll get an email or card from old friends who I am no longer frequently in touch with.  I feel happy to know they're thinking of me and are taking the time to check in to see how I am, and let me know what's going on in their lives, etc.

So I know it's not a big deal, but with all the advice to keep quiet about wedding talk around people that aren't going to be invited, I'm just not sure how much to share.  Ideally, I'd love to email back and share what's new in my life - getting married in a few months, but I don't want this to lead to weirdness about being invited or not.  On the other hand, I don't want to keep it a secret that I'm getting married soon either.  And I feel it's a little rude to wait until after the wedding to reply just to avoid the whole topic.

I guess one tactic is to just say "we're having a small destination wedding" although with our current guest estimate it's not going to be the typical small DW.

MyUserName1

I think there is a world of difference between telling someone that you're getting married and discussing the wedding with them.

The advice is generally more along the lines of not talking about your colors and your bouquets and you finished making your card box to people not invited.  Because that should make them assume they're invited.

Just tell them you're getting married.  They shouldn't assume an invitation from that.

CFM102012

Go ahead and tell them you're getting married.  With only two months to go I doubt they'll think they might get an invite.

rebarobert2012

I don't think there is anything wrong with telling them that you are getting married.  I agree with PP that there is a big difference between telling someone you are getting married and discussing wedding plans with them.  If you haven't been in close touch with them, they probably don't expect to be invited.

achiduck

If at 2 and a half months from your wedding, they don't already know you're getting married, telling them so isn't going to do any harm. Just make sure you don't go into details.

mollyehren

I would tell them that I was going to be getting married in a intimate family ceremony. While most people wouldn't assume they would be invited just look at all the pots where people assume and do things stupid.