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RSVP envelope

Hi!  I have a question...is it still the norm to have the RSVP envelopes sent to the parents of the bride, if they are hosting?  I guess I never paid attention when I turn in my RSVP cards to other weddings.  My parents don't live far, at all, and I see them PLENTY, so I'd be able to collect the cards from them with no problem, but I just think it may be easier for them to be sent directly to me so I can keep track, hound down the people who don't select their meal, get started on place cards, etc.  Your opinions are appreciated, thanks!

Julie

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvp-envelope?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:473eceb6-863f-44cf-bcdb-3dd827e31ecbPost:0d226fea-ba8c-4c59-9d56-77fc062e05bc">Re: RSVP envelope</a>:
    [QUOTE]If your parents are hosting (not just paying, actually hosting), then the RSVPs should go to them and they should be the ones keeping track.
    Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]

    <div>This.</div><div>
    </div><div>If they are handling the seating arrangments, meal choices, contact with the venue, etc, the RSVP cards should definitely go to them.  if you're handling the details, then it is more efficient to have the cards come back to you, but if you want to be super traditional, send them to your parents anyway and just have your parents relay the information to you as they get the cards.  Doing it that way just adds a little more complication to an already busy time though.</div>
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    I think you should have them sent to you if you're doing all the details. 
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    While it's traditional for the hosts to receive them, we had them sent to us even though my parents were hosting (and their address was the return address on the actual invitation).  It was easier for us to keep track of the cards, and we entered them into a google docs spreadsheet that we shared with my parents, so they could check on numbers and later look over our table assignments.  
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    It really depends on who is handling the details.

    H and I were going to have the RSVPs sent back to us, even though my parents were hosting because I was handling all the details.  The only reason we had them sent to my parents was because we were expecting them back right in the middle of our move and we didn't want to miss any because of mailing issues.

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    edited January 2013
    We are having ours sent to my parents, as they are the hosts.  I'm one of those people who notices if the RSVP envelope doesn't match the listed host at the top of the invitation, but I bet I'm in the extreme minority.

    We have also set up a google doc so my mom and I can enter info.  It's a pretty sweet spreadsheet.  It has the names for outer envelopes, inner envelopes (we are having both), escort cards, and addresses.  And then there is a column for # in party, whether they have RSVP'd yes or no, whether they are invited to the rehearsal, whether they are invited to my shower, and then finally columns for me to write down the shower gift, wedding gift, and whether I have sent thank you notes for each.  We also have running totals on the bottom of # in party and # RSVPd, which update automatically.

    It sounds complicated but it is very organized.  This way my mom and I both have current addresses (her for the invitations, me for the thank yous), and we can keep track of where we are in the process.  I can see who has RSVPd (and for how many), my mom can enter wedding gifts as they arrive (since they are going to her house), I can keep track of who I have written a thank you to, etc.  A quick glance at my google drive tells me whether there have been any updates, and that way I know to check.  We call it the "Master List."
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    Thanks, everyone!  I will definitely look into google docs as it seems that'd be a lot easier than running to my parents every week to collect RSVP's.  Or I may just have them sent to us.  And yes, I'm very indecisive on everything, haha.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvp-envelope?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:473eceb6-863f-44cf-bcdb-3dd827e31ecbPost:25913047-812c-40a4-8835-6891748d3b32">Re: RSVP envelope</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: RSVP envelope : This. If they are handling the seating arrangments, meal choices, contact with the venue, etc, the RSVP cards should definitely go to them.  if you're handling the details, then it is more efficient to have the cards come back to you, but if you want to be super traditional, send them to your parents anyway and just have your parents relay the information to you as they get the cards.  Doing it that way just adds a little more complication to an already busy time though.
    Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

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