So, I realize that this question is probably coming up a little early for a January 2012 wedding, but I work as a summer camp director and so my busy season (May-September) is almost upon me. I'm hoping to be able to take a break from all wedding related planning / organization but don't want to leave everything to the last few months. So, here's the question:
My mom and I have been discussing invitations and when to set the deadline for the RSVP. I know from lurking and reading older posts that typically you do whatever your caterer's deadline is plus a week or so to give you time to call the stragglers.
Our Wedding is January 14th, 2012. The location where we are having the reception says they need the final headcount / payment 14 working days before the event. That puts us at January 1st - add in one week for stragglers and we're at December 25th.
My mom says that I should move the deadline back more to avoid calling people over the holidays, when they are all spending time with their families. But even if we move it back one more week (December 19th), I'd still be calling folks on the days leading up to Christmas which kinda defeats the purpose of moving it back. And if we move it back more than that it just feels like it's so far away from the actual event.
Clearly, this is not life or death .. but it sure is making my head spin. Any thoughts? Suggestions?