I was just interrogated by police

KentuckyKate

I posted a little about this last night, but some shiit went down at my work.  My friend was caught stealing patients' narcotics and using them at work, and she was arrested on Monday.  Turns out she's been doing it for over a year.  I took PTO this week for finals, so I just found out about it last night when I saw it on the news.  I was really shocked and upset by it, considering she was the last person on earth I ever thought would steal meds or have a drug problem.  This is a sweet as pie, devout Christian, super mom type of person.  She was a great nurse, and was even nominated for employee of the year.  I am just stunned.

Aaanyway, I got a phone call at 6:30 this morning from my director of nursing.  She said they were doing an investigation and questioning everyone who works on that unit, and drug testing everyone who could have touched that medicine bottle.  I had a final this morning, and went to work right after for my questioning.  And there was a uniformed cop in there!  The DON never mentioned that on the phone, so it caught me off guard, and I was all nervous.

So I am sitting there telling them I knew nothing about any of all this (which I didn't!), but my voice is shaking and I'm trembling, and I'm visibly upset by it all, and then I'm aware that I sound guilty as sin, which made it worse.

I know I have nothing to worry about because I really didn't know, but they asked me all kinds of questions about my personal life and my friendship with this nurse who stole the drugs and it just made me super uncomfortable and now I'm probably on a DEA watch list or something.

Cheer me up?

lyndausvi

i'm sorry KK.  I would have been the same way.

This always helps me:

ETA - stupid Knot.  Enough already

baystateapple

*HUGS* Kate, I'm sure the police are used to people sounding shaky and nervous when they're interrogated.  I'm sure you'll be fine.

HappinessByTheKilowatt

Oh KK, I am sorry! That must be hard-- both because she was a friend and someone you trusted, and because getting blindsided by cops is pretty much the last thing anyone wants. I am sure that they will probably monitor your workplace for a bit, but I don't think you have anything you need to worry about. Sucks being caught in the middle like that though. I hope your day gets better!

achiduck

What a horrible situation. I'm sorry you're going through this! If it makes you feel any better, you probably weren't the only one who was nervous during questioning. I'm sure some of  your co-workers were just as nervous.

barbie92

I would have had the same reaction. Don't worry it is a normal reaction. I get nervous just seeing a cop on the road.
Sorry you had to go through that!

SarahPLiz

KK- I'm so sorry you had to do that. Detectives are trained in interview techniques, though. THey can tell the difference between people who are lying and those who are just nervous. You don't have anything to worry about. 

medicapril

Was she using them or selling them?  I hope for her baby's sake she wasn't actually ingesting them!  People are crazy & desparate though, so who knows....  What is going to happen to her children?  Hopfeull she has nearby family or the dad is able to care for them.  T&P's to those kids!

KentuckyKate

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_just-interrogated-police?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:48f0df23-d0fd-4f73-9126-d64e91a352fcPost:a07068df-b565-40c8-8625-8c9e33d0a113">Re: I was just interrogated by police</a>:
[QUOTE]Was she using them or selling them?  I hope for her baby's sake she wasn't actually ingesting them!  People are crazy & desparate though, so who knows....  What is going to happen to her children?  Hopfeull she has nearby family or the dad is able to care for them.  T&P's to those kids!
Posted by medicapril[/QUOTE]
It was liquid, and she was using it.  During her shift at work, at that.  She is married, so if she has to serve jail time, her kids will be with their dad.  As of now she spent the night in jail and was released until her court date.  She was charged with theft of a controlled substance and tampering with physical evidence.

sleblanc72

Oh Kate that's just awful, I can't imagine what was going through her head with having such a young family at home.  I'm glad the kids have their dad to be with but I can't imagine what everyone at home and work must be going through and how hard that is to deal with.

lyndausvi

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_just-interrogated-police?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:48f0df23-d0fd-4f73-9126-d64e91a352fcPost:bbb4210a-f548-4374-a457-5d7293c3e4dc">Re: I was just interrogated by police</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow KK, I'm so sorry.  I think it'd be unreasonable for them to assume that you knew, when it was clear that she was good at hiding it from everyone.  It's also completely understandable that you'd be upset when a coworker, and friend is in trouble. 
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

<div>It sucks KK and other innocent people are being dragged through this, but I think it's reasonable for the police to question everyone.  This is serious and they need to make sure the co-worker is not covering up some big drug ring or something.</div>

HappinessByTheKilowatt

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_just-interrogated-police?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:48f0df23-d0fd-4f73-9126-d64e91a352fcPost:fa270744-de2a-4e43-acf8-81ab19f96b9b">Re: I was just interrogated by police</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I was just interrogated by police : Yes she was.  She was dipping into the liquid oxy, and refilling it with water to cover it up.  We recently got a new kind that has an additive that turns the liquid brown if it's mixed with water, and she didn't know that.  So it turned brown, it was sent to the pharmacy, they confirmed it had been tampered with, and everyone was drug tested.  She failed the drug test, and confessed everything in a written statement, and later a taped statement when she was arrested.  A YEAR.  I just can't wrap my head around it.
Posted by KentuckyKate[/QUOTE]

That's unreal.

My ex was (is) an oxy addict. It was... intense, to say the least. I wonder what in the world possessed her. Breaks my heart for her family, and for her really. That is HARD stuff to get off. Hopefully, getting caught will be a blessing, and she will be able to get the help she needs. Tough stuff.

jemmini6

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_just-interrogated-police?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:48f0df23-d0fd-4f73-9126-d64e91a352fcPost:ffaf2f24-56b9-4366-b4d9-f60f169709aa">Re: I was just interrogated by police</a>:
[QUOTE]*HUGS* Kate, I'm sure the police are used to people sounding shaky and nervous when they're interrogated.  I'm sure you'll be fine.
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

This for sure.  I've been questioned by police at work also (for a coworker that commited a much bigger crime than drug abuse too) and we all shared our experiences with each other and everyone was nervous, so I'm sure they are quite used to it.  Also, they know the difference between nervousness due to guilt and nervousness due to surprise of learning about the situation.

I wouldn't worry too much about it, but the good thing that can come out of this is that 1. she will get the help she needs (although it sucks it has to be this way) and 2. you will be more aware of your coworkers in the future and can help them before it ever gets this bad.

Megbo2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_just-interrogated-police?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:48f0df23-d0fd-4f73-9126-d64e91a352fcPost:fa270744-de2a-4e43-acf8-81ab19f96b9b">Re: I was just interrogated by police</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I was just interrogated by police : Yes she was.  She was dipping into the liquid oxy, and refilling it with water to cover it up.  We recently got a new kind that has an additive that turns the liquid brown if it's mixed with water, and she didn't know that.  So it turned brown, it was sent to the pharmacy, they confirmed it had been tampered with, and everyone was drug tested.  She failed the drug test, and confessed everything in a written statement, and later a taped statement when she was arrested.  A YEAR.  I just can't wrap my head around it.
Posted by KentuckyKate[/QUOTE]

<div>Wow. I can't imagine hiding something like that from someone for that long. It's like living a lie day after day.  I'm ignorant about this drug, but I assume it would have harmed the baby if she was taking it while pregnant.  What could possibly happen? I just don't understand putting your child at risk like that.</div>

PinkRoseAcct

I am so sorry you are dealing with this, and so sorry that you coworker is so distressed that she needed to tap the oxy for a solution.  Prayers for you both!  I know that whenever I'm in front of police, I shake like cray cray.  Last week, I went into an anxiety attack and couldn't calm down, so FI called 911 on me - my BP went up just from them being there (at least, it felt like that).  Hugs!!!

Birdie1483

I"m so sorry Kate. I'm going to FB you a story I don't feel comfortable sharing on here.

annakb8

Wow, that's crazy. I probably would have gotten upset and anxious too. 

mica178

Oh, Kate. 

I'm so sorry you're going through this, but you'll be okay!  I'm sure the police understand that people can sound nervous just from being interrogated. 

krizzo17

It's normal to be upset! I doubt the police thought anything of it. They do this all day every day, they know the difference between a shook up coworker and a drug addict/dealer.

Hope your day gets better!

nhahn2206

I doubt they think you have any involvement just because you sounded nervous. I would be trembling like a leaf if I was interrogated by the police! What a crazy situation though. So sorry to hear about your friend and that you have to deal with all of this.

adamar15

I'm sorry KK.  I'm sure they didn't think you looked guilty, just upset that something like this happened where you work.  That would shake anyone up and they know that. 

FutureMrsFezz

That's crazy, Kate.  Sorry you're going though this!

medicapril

I'm sorry you had to go through that!  I was once interrogated by the military's Criminal Investigative Division... they did mug shots & not just finger prints but WHOLE HAND PRINTS!  Apparently when we were overseas (I'm prior military) some idiot thought it would be a great idea to pluck a bud off a pot plant in some remote Afghan village.  Riiiight.  So they basically interrogated our whole platoon.  It was awful & terrifying.

<hugs />

Megbo2012

Wow KK, I'm so sorry.  I think it'd be unreasonable for them to assume that you knew, when it was clear that she was good at hiding it from everyone.  It's also completely understandable that you'd be upset when a coworker, and friend is in trouble. 

sleblanc72

That's crazy Kate, I'm sorry!  I'm sure everything will be ok, I would have been all shaky too and I'm sure the police are used to people being so nervous.

KentuckyKate

Thanks guys.  You're probably right about me not being the only nervous one.

I just can't get over it.  This girl has a 3 year old kid and 3 month old baby, and she's been using stolen narcs for a year.  So throughout her entire pregnancy.  She'll definitely lose her license over this, and now she'll have a criminal record as well.  She hasn't even paid off her student loans yet, and her nursing career is over.  I am angry she did this, but I am also sad for her and and her family.  I hope she can get some help.

KentuckyKate

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_just-interrogated-police?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:48f0df23-d0fd-4f73-9126-d64e91a352fcPost:bbb4210a-f548-4374-a457-5d7293c3e4dc">Re: I was just interrogated by police</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow KK, I'm so sorry.  I think it'd be unreasonable for them to assume that you knew, <strong>when it was clear that she was good at hiding it from everyone.</strong>  It's also completely understandable that you'd be upset when a coworker, and friend is in trouble. 
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]
Yes she was.  She was dipping into the liquid oxy, and refilling it with water to cover it up.  We recently got a new kind that has an additive that turns the liquid brown if it's mixed with water, and she didn't know that.  So it turned brown, it was sent to the pharmacy, they confirmed it had been tampered with, and everyone was drug tested.  She failed the drug test, and confessed everything in a written statement, and later a taped statement when she was arrested.  A YEAR.  I just can't wrap my head around it.

ootmother2

oh dear,

kK, it's just that so guilty look you seems to have, no wonder they were suspicious

Sorry you had to deal with this (hugs)

midgetthemighty

Oh wow KK. Sorry you had to be interrogated but as everyone else said I'm sure they could tell you're just shaken and surprised by the whole thing. You'll be fine. *hugs*

Megbo2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_just-interrogated-police?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:48f0df23-d0fd-4f73-9126-d64e91a352fcPost:4952ff75-99f7-43ca-acc6-67c678e02b74">Re: I was just interrogated by police</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I was just interrogated by police : It sucks KK and other innocent people are being dragged through this, but I think it's reasonable for the police to question everyone.  This is serious and they need to make sure the co-worker is not covering up some big drug ring or something.
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

<div>Sorry, just saw this buried in the middle of the thread. I undertsnad it's probably protocal for them to question everyone, I was just saying she had been keeping it a secret from <em>everyone</em> and that just because KK seemed nervous she shouldn't have to worry thinking they'd think she was lying. </div>