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cant decide! help!

crysspearscrysspears member
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So my Venue is all inclusive. Children under 3 are completely free and will be provided a kids meal..

On the flip side, children 4 and older are full price around 90.. my cousins have a good amount of kids and I don't know how to handle it. I'm not too close with any of my family, but we are family and I know there would probably be a drama if I don't invite my cousins kids. but I dont see the point of inviting my cousins 911 year olds, or even a 5 year oold.. especially if that's gonna raise the price 180 per family. And most of my cousins have 2 kids or more.


Help : I can't come to a final decision, and I need to start addressing my invites soon .
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Re: cant decide! help!

  • auriannaaurianna member
    Ninth Anniversary 1000 Comments 500 Love Its 5 Answers
    This is really something you have to decide.
    If you aren't close to your cousins there's no reason you're required to invite them (or their children).
    we didn't invite any of the cousins' kids.
    Some cousins still came, some did not.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    If it's not in the budget, then don't invite children. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    I think you need to decide with your FI whether to invite all the kids or none of the kids.  Don't allow only the kids 4 and under, because their free, that would cause even more drama than just inviting no kids period.  If you aren't close to your cousins, then I would not invite their children (or them really).  Try to create a clear cut off for the kids you do decide to invite.  I only had my niece and nephews at the wedding.  So try for a clear circle, like nieces/nephews only, WP children only, etc.
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  • STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    It sounds like you dont want kids.  Don't invite them.
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  • crysspearscrysspears member
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    I mean I kinda dont.. I mean, I have a minimum to meet (cost min.) and that would be for 116 people to show.. I have 125 or so on my list to invite, so im conflicted about more adults, or just have the kids? this is tough! 
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  • crysspearscrysspears member
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    And its even more frustrating because my family had a b*** fit because my sisters friend planned her baby shower so we didnt need their help.. and im planning with my FI, mom and sister so theyll probbly have a fit over it too.. And my mom never heard the end of it.. and I mean I dont know anyones phone numbers so again it'd be my mom to hear it all... I guess Ill have her decide (since we do need to meet the min. amt of people) and we really just wanna party at the reception so I guess we wont notice them if they do come? merp, we will see )=
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  • MsYeckMsYeck member
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    You cannot please everyone. At $90 a kid unless their are less than like 5-6 of them I would no kids
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