I am so confused

Mmoray

Oh great women of E..help me out?

I'm talking to my mother about addressing invites. If we are not going to use inside envelopes, how would we address these situations? Particularly if we'd like to avoid using titles like Mr. and Miss? (can we even do that? this is all such a clusterfuuck)

1) I have a cousin who is engaged. Obviously her and FI are invited together. How do I order the names? We're not trying to be super formal here.. I'm sending the invite to her address if that matters. (My mother seems to think having both names on the same line with confuse the postman..?)

2) I'd like to avoid the "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" option for the married couples. What are my other options? 

I hate this process.  

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]Oh great women of E..help me out? I'm talking to my mother about addressing invites. If we are not going to use inside envelopes, how would we address these situations? Particularly if we'd like to avoid using titles like Mr. and Miss? (can we even do that? this is all such a clusterfuuck) 1) I have a cousin who is engaged. Obviously her and FI are invited together. How do I order the names? We're not trying to be super formal here.. I'm sending the invite to her address if that matters. (My mother seems to think having both names on the same line with confuse the postman..?) 2) I'd like to avoid the "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" option for the married couples. What are my other options?  I hate this process.  :)
Posted by Mmoray[/QUOTE]


1) Ladie's first

2) Jane Smith and John Smith.

Mmoray

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[QUOTE]In Response to I am so confused : 1) Ladie's first 2) Jane Smith and John Smith.
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

<div>Thank you. You're awesome. </div>

MyUserName1

1) Cousin first, FI who doesn't live with her on the second line

2) Jane and John Smith

OliveOilsMom

1.) You put both of their names on the invite.  Your cousin on the first line and her FI on the second line.  Putting both on the same line would indicate they are married.

2.) You can do Mrs Jane and Mr John Smith, if you don't want to do Mr & Mrs John Smith.

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]In Response to I am so confused : 1) Ladie's first 2) Jane Smith and John Smith.
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

I should clarify on the lining up of names that your cousin should go first and then her FI should go on the line below.

strlzfan11

Ladies first.

Cousin FN LN
FI FN LN

Married couples
WFN and HFN LN

If they have separate last names
WFN LN and HFN LN

Mmoray

Thank you.  

I love all of you. Really I do. 

Avion22

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[QUOTE]Oh great women of E..help me out? I'm talking to my mother about addressing invites. If we are not going to use inside envelopes, how would we address these situations? Particularly if we'd like to avoid using titles like Mr. and Miss? (can we even do that? this is all such a clusterfuuck) 1) I have a cousin who is engaged. Obviously her and FI are invited together. How do I order the names? We're not trying to be super formal here.. I'm sending the invite to her address if that matters. (My mother seems to think having both names on the same line with confuse the postman..?) 2) I'd like to avoid the "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" option for the married couples. What are my other options?  I hate this process.  :)
Posted by Mmoray[/QUOTE]



1). (Ms.) Jane Jones
(Mr.) Michael Smith
123 Her Street
Her Town, ST 12345


2). You can do Mr. And Mrs. John Smith if you want ( then list any children invited on the next line)...I did Mr. And Mrs. John and Mary Smith, because that's how I roll, but I dont think it's 100% correct (didn't know that at the time though).

Coghoot12

1) Address it like this: 
Cousin's Name
Cousin's FI's name
123 street
City, State Zip.

2) I also wanted to avoid the Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.  I did "Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Smith".

As far as titles, it depends on the formality of the wedding. If it is not very formal then Jane Smith is fine.  But if it is more formal then you need to use titles.

Addressing invites was one of my least favorite parts of wedding planning.  Best of Luck!

Maggie0829

FYI, the postman could careless what name is on the envelope as long as the address is correct.

Mmoray

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[QUOTE]FYI, the postman could careless what name is on the envelope as long as the address is correct.
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]

<div>Exactly what I told my mother. Thanks.  :)</div>

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]FYI, the postman could careless what name is on the envelope as long as the address is correct.
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]

Depends on your postal worker.  Mine's a diiiick.

cokie216

This post has helped me out too so thanks!  Can I ask you ladies, is there anything wrong with omitting first names i.e. Mr. and Mrs Smith?