Im getting married in May & I am having a huge issue with my MOH.
The girl I chose to be my maid of honor is also my roommate. I chose her to be my MOH before we were roommate & I made this decision back in May of 10'. Since then she has not helped me out in any way, shape or form with the wedding. My fiance is in South Dakota for grad school while I am back home in Texas. I really could use her help in all of this because I am so stressed out about having to make decisions about things since my fiance is not here.
Also recently she has been acting very differently towards me & has not been treating me the way she normally does. Im taking this semester off of school because of some grade problems but also to try & save some money since my fiance & I will be paying for most of the wedding. I have been looking for a job for the last 6 months & have been unsuccesful. So I stay at home & try to plan everything by myself while she is at school student teaching before graduation in May. She has a dog that she never spends time with & basically expects me to take care of all the time when she is not here. Shes not only gone during the day for student teaching, but she goes out & parties several days a week and leaves the dogs in my hands then as well.
Her dog has a really bad chewing problem & will chew on pretty much anything he can get a hold of. Today he was chewing on a power cord and I went to discipline him because hes still young & needs to learn. He ran away from me & hid under the table like he always does. When I went to pull him out from under the table he bit me harder than he has ever bit me. My fingers are all bruised & my arm is scratched up from his claws which are really sharp because hes never been to the vet. I put him in his crate becaues I didnt want him to bite me anymore. A little later when she got home from school I was upset & told her that something needed to be done about her dog. This, by the way, is not the first time he has bit me. When my fiance he was home for Christmas break he bit my fiance several times & drew blood. I told her about him biting then & every time he has bit me since then. She said I should have told her soon, but the thing is I have. Anyway, all this has put us into a huge fight & made me think about everything.
Our friendship I feel is not the same as it used to be & I feel I made a mistake by asking her to be my MOH. She hasnt helped me at all & she doesnt respect my wishes about a bachelorette party. She is all about drinking, getting drunk & partying all the time. I dont feel the same way & she knows it. I dont drink anymore & told her that I didnt want to go out to the bar, but she doesnt care. I know as the MOH its her job to plan all this...but I feel she should respect my wishes & the way I feel about things. Its getting to the point where I am very tempted to remove her from the MOH position as well as the whole wedding party in general. I have had talks with her about being more helpful about planning & everything but its not working. I dont want to take her out of the wedding, especially with it being this close to the wedding...but something needs to change.
I dont know what I should do about all this, & I could really use some advise. So please help if anyone has anything to add that could help me out. Sorry this post is kind of long & drawn out...but I thought yall might need to fully understand the situation.