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Inviting the whole family

teachmegs1teachmegs1 member
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I am putting together addresses for the guest list. In doing so, I was typing out the addresses for one family and realized that out of the three siblings, we didn't include the sister.  Here's the scenario,
  • My FI grew up with these two boys who are brothers who live in his neighborhood. One of the boys graduated H.S. with us, and another has turned into a close friend in our group.  His parents are also close with my FI and we've been included in their annual Christmas party and other gatherings that the oldest brother has at his house too.  These two brothers have a sister also.  She's not someone who I am personally friends with, nor is my FI.  Not because we don't like her, she's just more of an acquaintance.  We are inviting the two brothers, and the parents.  Should we send an invite to the sister too.  I feel silly leaving out the one person in the family, but again, I don't know where etiquette lies in this situation. and I don't want to offend anybody involved if we don't invite her.  Thanks Ladies!
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  • nda8414nda8414 member
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    While it would be nice to include her, you certainly dont have to.
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  • teachmegs1teachmegs1 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_inviting-the-whole-family?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4b009423-1865-4f8c-9acc-d0fb7f927616Post:6a848f5a-3ad4-4ed9-b62d-21da60df3d51">Re: Inviting the whole family</a>:
    [QUOTE]The sister is an adult, correct? If you are only acquantainces, she shouldn't be expecting an invite, so I think it is fine not to invite her. If it was a bunch of kids, I'd say invite her to avoid hurt feelings, but as an adult, she must know that her bothers' friend =/= her friends.
    Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]

    Yes, she's an adult. That's kind of what I was thinking, but then again, I was already formulating in my head the possibly conversation of, "They invited everyone but..." I tend to worry before a situation arises in some cases, and I am trying to please everyone as much as I can. Thanks! =)
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  • libby2483libby2483 member
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    If the siblings were all children, I would say that you should invite her.  However, since they are all adults, it isn't necessary.  It would be a nice gesture if you have the budget and space, but if not, I wouldn't worry about it.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    No, you don't have to invite the sister.
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  • MuppetOverlordMuppetOverlord member
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    If one of the invited siblings really wants, they could bring her as a guest...but if she's just an acquaintance it's prob no mystery to her why she isn't getting an invite here
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  • SephirothSephiroth member
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    You're certainly not required, and there shouldn't be the kind of potential hurt feelings you'd see with kids. But if you find yourself at the end of the guest list sorting and you realize that adding her in would be no hardship, then hey, it'd be nice.

    You're totally not obligated though.
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