Bridesmaid Gifts

Pookie583

I've recently read that jewelry to be worn in the wedding cannot be considered a "gift" for the bridesmaids, which does makes sense. I am having jewelry made and it is going to be their gift. Bracelets are all the same, but each has charms to individualize and personalize them (2 have their children's initials and the other has a horse charm which relates to how we met). Earrings are all chandelier style, but are different and I chose/designed them to fit each girl's style. In addition to the jewelry will be a small clutch (not for use in the wedding).

These pieces are things that I have spent a lot of time thinking about and choosing specifics like color/material/style to be sure the girls would love them. Are they going to be disappointed that their gift is something to be worn in the wedding? Is this really a big "no-no"??

Mrs.B6302007

Just give it to them but don't expect them to wear it in the wedding.

baystateapple

You know your friends better than we do.  If you took the trouble to find them personalized gifts that you believe they will each know you picked out "just" for them, then I don't see a problem with your gifts at all.

MissKate2011

What people mean by jewellery not being an appropriate gift is that everyone has different tastes and styles and it's a selfish gift by it being more for you to have a "uniform" then it being a thank you to the bridesmaids.

If you designed the jewellery with your bridesmaids tastes and styles in mind I think they will love it!

Habs2Hart

If you know each one of them will appreciate the gift and each one is chosen differently to each persons' tastes, you should be good. 

You spent time thinking about it and picking them out, you didn't just buy the same jewellery and expect them all to wear them. 

However, don't tell them they are to wear at the wedding.  Let them make that choice.

lbow1984

I think this is fine since you made each piece of jewelry designed to their specific tastes and especially b/c they will also receive a clutch for themselves that is not part of what they are to wear in the wedding. 

That being said I think you can go about this a couple of ways. 
1 - Here is some jewelry I would like for you to wear in the wedding and for your gift I've gotten you a clutch

2 - Here are your gifts.  They are jewelry and a clutch.  If you would like to wear the jewelry in the wedding you can, but it's not a requirement as it's a gift, etc.

Okay you'd want to use much better wording there, but I hope that helps. 

thesequel

I think that the issue comes with the completely matching jewelry with the tagline of "look how perfect it will look with your BM dress!".  I had this happen last summer and the necklace was ugly and my skin reacted to it.  I would have preferred to wear my own jewelry but we were to look like clones.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I honestly can't answer that. I'm personally not much of a jewelry person, so it wouldn't be a gift I would go crazy over, but I would be gracious. If they all really like jewelry then I guess they'll probably like their gift.

AbbeyS2011

I think what you read about is speaking of "uniform" jewelry that is all the same, so all the BP is matching, such as faux pearl necklace/earrings sets.  When someone is given that as a "BM gift" it is tacky.

The gifts you have described are very thoughtful, plus no where in your post did you say they HAVE to wear any of the items as part of their wedding attire.  This is perfectly OK. 

PS: I bought small clutches for my BP also - not to use for wedding, but as part of their gifts. 

cassandrae913

I have never heard of this being an issue. Almost every wedding I have attended or been involved in the gift was jewelry for the wedding or hair/makeup for the wedding. Maybe it is just in CA, but I seriously do not know what you guys are talking about or why it is rude.