remarried stepdad etiquette

knox2010

Ok so my groom has a half sister who is gonna be one of my bridesmaids but their mom died and her dad his step dad got remarried. I just want to know whether or not they should be invited as well because of the relationship to his sister.

Kristin789

Of course.

Your FI was raised with his half-sister, so she's like a sister to him.  And apparently to YOU, since you asked her to serve as one of your bridesmaids.

And your FI was raised in a household headed by this man who is your FI's step-dad but who is like a dad to him.

I understand that this man has gotten married again recently, but that certainly does not negate the years that he was married to your FI's mother, and was raising your FI and his own daughter (FI's half sister).

alehayes

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_remarried-stepdad-etiquette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4c989259-aa41-457f-b1f7-d70be870e466Post:116a71b7-4137-45ac-945a-1ee670093fcb">Re: remarried stepdad etiquette</a>:
[QUOTE]Of course. Your FI was raised with his half-sister, so she's like a sister to him.  And apparently to YOU, since you asked her to serve as one of your bridesmaids. And your FI was raised in a household headed by this man who is your FI's step-dad but <strong>who is like a dad to him</strong>. I understand that this man has gotten married again recently, but that certainly does not negate the years that he was married to your FI's mother, and was raising your FI and his own daughter (FI's half sister).
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</div><div>Nowhere in the OP does she mention how her FI feels about his sister's dad.  In fact, since she asks if they should invite him and his wife based on the relationship to the sister, I'm guessing he's not.  You don't know their relationship, how long he was married to her FI's mom, etc., and the fact that his dad was married to his mom doesn't mean they were raised together either.  My youngest brother and I share a mom, but we weren't raised together.  Don't start making assumptions about someone else's background.</div><div>
</div><div>OP-If your FI has a good relationship with him and would like to have him there, by all means, invite him.  If your FI and he don't really get along, or if the budget is already tight, don't feel obligated to invite them just because they're related to his sister.  It's really just a matter of personal feelings.

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jessicabessica

I agree with alehayes.  It depends on their relationship to your FI (and obviously if you invite the stepdad, you need to invite his wife).  You don't need to invite them just because they're the parents of one of your bridesmaids. 

manychihuahuas

Issues like this really strike at my heart.  I am marrying a man with 3 children whom I love very much.  I am aware that they have a mother and I do not try to replace her or compete with her.  However, I put a lot of effort into them and the thought of being summarily removed from the family if something should happen to my H (once we are married) really scares me.  They ARE my family but it seems very common to forget that in the case of "steps".  

I really feel for these people who put their heart and soul into a family only to get removed from it years later due to circumstances beyond their control. 

hlq2011

My father passed away last year, but my stepmother is every bit a part of my family as he was.

You don't need to invite them just because he's your bridesmaid's father.  It should depend on if your FH is close to the man.

knox2010

I forgot to mention that my groom hates his stepdad and I'm not fond of him either.