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Bachelorette Party Invite Troubles

Hi all,

I am planning my sister's bachelorette party. She has 15 friends going, so a BIG group of very tight knit friends. I was telling a girlfriend about it and she knows my sister, but they aren't friends...they never talk and she isn't invited to the wedding. She wanted to come along and at the time I said, you should come. This was my fault for not asking my sister first and for having a big mouth and extending the invite.

My sister is the sweetest thing and doesn't mind at all if my friend comes along. What is bothering me is my friend is totally going just for her own interests and is being opportunistic about it. I planned to drive, but she asked if she could drive so we could go furniture shopping while we were there! We are going for my sister's party, not to buy some couches!

I also think she is going to be a bit dramatic on the trip and I don't want to worry about her. She is going through a divorce and I don't want anything to take away from my sister's big event. It will also be cramped and we don't have enough beds as it is, we will have to bring along an air mattress.

I don't see how I can "un-invite" her at this point. I stopped talking about the party thinking she may have forgotten, but she brought it up again so I told her the dates and details.

Should I just suck it up and have her come along? I am annoyed with her on a number of other levels related to our friendship, so I think that is why this is bothering me.

Let me know your thoughts. Thanks!

Re: Bachelorette Party Invite Troubles

  • Well I'd kill my sister if she invited one of her friends that I am not friends with and or do not life.  But maybe thats just me. I honestly would let her know that you "forgot" the bach party is only for close friends of the bride, invited to the wedding, and you two can go furniture shopping some other time.
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  • You'll look real shiitty if you uninvite her.

    Let her come, but don't give into any furniture shopping.  If she really wants to do that, she can take her own car.

    And learn to keep your mouth closed for next time.
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  • If i had to drive from Seattle (where it looks like you are from) to Austin with a bunch of girls, there would be very few survivors by the time we got here..

    FWIW, there is plenty she can do here on her own, and antuiqe shops can ship the crap she buys.
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