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Delicate BM situation

Hi girls! 

I posted awhile ago about my bridesmaid (and step-sister) who said at Christmas she wasn't sure if she wanted to be a bridesmaid because she was pregnant.
She had a miscarriage in January, and it's been in limbo what she's doing.

A few weeks ago I told her we're ordering the dresses on Saturday. I asked her casually if she wanted to come. She said over the phone, she's not sure.

I didn't want to keep bothering her about it, but my dad said to remind her because she wants to go. So I just sent her a nice text asking her if she wants to come.

She responds with: "No. That is the last thing on my mind right now."

I don't understand how she's feeling because I've never had a miscarriage, but I don't know how to respond. It's especially fuzzy because we're not that close, and she isn't a very warm, kind and fuzzy person. I was in her wedding party, and I wanted her to be in mine. And I don't mean to sound insensitive, but she may not be in a good place now, but my wedding isn't until July. 

Both of my parents say I need to get an answer from her one way or the other. So what do I do? Do I ask her if she still wants to be a bridesmaid? Or do I let her text be and just ignore it? 

FWIW, my fiancee can't stand this girl, and thinks that because this wedding isn't about her, she's not interested. (She thought this even before the miscarriage.)
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