Future In Law's Music Choices

JaimeePower

I asked both my fiance's dad and my own mom if they had special songs they wanted played at the wedding (since they don't get a special dance). I haven't heard anything from my fiance's parents in months, until they decided to mail a CD of music to my fiance. They apparently insisted on sending a CD since they don't understand the idea that we have a DJ, plus the music they sent is all 5 minute long slow Opera songs. No one is going to want to dance to it, and I hate all the songs.

What do I do so I don't hurt anyone's feelings, but still make sure my guests and I have fun??

achiduck

Is there any way your DJ can remix them or cut them down into something that people can dance to?

daveANDkristen

Do you hate them because they aren't the kinds of songs you were looking for?  Or are they actually bad?  What about playing the songs (a few of them, you don't have to use them all) during dinner?  Nobody will be up dancing anyway, so most people opt for instrumentals, soft jazz, standards, etc. for dinnertime.

MattsPenguin

Since you asked for a recommendation specifically, you should incorporate their requests somehow.  Perhaps ask the DJ to play part of the song.

I'm curious as to what song they've actually requested you play.

MattsPenguin

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_future-laws-music-choices?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4dd062d5-79ef-453c-8b25-01346a181b68Post:32fe803e-751c-49b5-b495-a308fa771f4f">Re: Future In Law's Music Choices</a>:
[QUOTE]Do you hate them because they aren't the kinds of songs you were looking for?  Or are they actually bad?  <strong>What about playing the songs (a few of them, you don't have to use them all) during dinner?  </strong>Nobody will be up dancing anyway, so most people opt for instrumentals, soft jazz, standards, etc. for dinnertime.
Posted by daveANDkristen[/QUOTE]

I second this idea!

toothpastechica

to be fair you asked them...if you didnt want thier imput you shouldnt have asked, maybe theres a compromise you can look for (get your dj to find a shorter version of  one of the songs or a similar style song thats shorter?) they they agree with. If you dont try and incoprorate anything that you specificially asked for there will be hurt feelings no matter how nicely you try and say you dont want it. If you dont want to use them dont use them, but know that you cant not use them and avoid hurting thier feelings its whats more important to you, you and your guests or your relationship with future inlaws...not judging just saying u gotta choose.

specialk84

Play it during dinner or cocktail hour.

Simply Fated

I vote for playing sone of them during dinner. Is playing some of them at the cocktail hour, too, a possibility?

daveANDkristen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_future-laws-music-choices?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4dd062d5-79ef-453c-8b25-01346a181b68Post:d3751ffc-8f93-4da8-ad93-af31009ee1cf">Re: Future In Law's Music Choices</a>:
[QUOTE]I was also going to suggest playing a few during dinner/cocktail hour. <strong>I honestly could NOT tell you what was playing during our dinner/cocktail hour</strong>, because people are chatting and such anyway.  So shorten a few and stick 'em in there - win-win
Posted by Kate61487[/QUOTE]

I was just going to say this.  No one is going to pay much attention to what music is playing during dinner/cocktail hour, probably including your ILs.  Slip a few songs into that time and don't make a big deal out of what was/wasn't played.

MyUserName1

I'm deeply curious as to what the songs are.

Summer2011Bride

If one song is slow dance-able, I would probably have the DJ play at least one song during the actual reception, since you did ask for their input. The rest could be played during cocktail hour/dinner. It really depends what songs they are specifically.

RaptorSLH

I second the dinner/cocktail hour suggestion - it's what I'll be doing with a lot of my favorites that my guests won't dance to.  Can you use one for a parent's spotlight dance?