FI's cousin didn't want to wait to get married because somehow they would save money through school if they did it by a certain deadline. So, they got married in February. (The money through school didn't end up working out.) They did a very small wedding (read: immediate family only) on a dock at the beach. Simple. Pretty. It was nice. But they are continuing to go through with the "big" wedding they were originally planning in June. So the rest of their family and friends can see them get married, again? Meanwhile they are living together and are acting entirely as husband and wife. However this marriage is being kept a secret from her grandparents. The reason? They are afraid her grandparents will be upset they weren't invited to the wedding in February. So, they are going to put on a show at this wedding in June for her grandparents whom don't have a clue.
Not only is this absurd. She is totally setting herself up for unnecessary family drama. I have been the only one to speak out to her that this may not be such a good idea. While everyone else won't say anything at all to her face and instead just talk about it behind her back. We had a discussion the other day in front of the my FMIL, FSIL, FBIL, etc. and it ended with her telling me to, "Shut up! Shut your face." So, now I'm the bad guy because I'm the only that has the nerve to say anything to her? FBIL walked into the house the other day and all FI's cousin was doing was going off about what a bitch I am and blah blah blah. Even my FMIL has talked to my FI about how he should think twice if marrying me is what he really wants to do. Oy vey! I like how I am the one in the wrong here. Sorry that was long. I know I shouldn't even let this ridiculousness bother me, but I had to get that off my chest.
PS. She just posted "engagement" pics on FB that they got done a few weeks ago. This is all a bit ridiculous.
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