XP: Semi-nontraditional addressing

KBSK12

I know etiquette says to address a married couple as Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, but I personally wouldn't like losing my first name as a woman. Our wedding is not super traditonal or formal, so I was wondering if something like Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith OR Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Smith would be acceptable.

pokepoke27

Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith should be acceptable. However, I personally would probably just do Mr. and Mrs Smith (if it's a fairly casual wedding) to avoid the envelope being too cluttered. 

HockeyFan4

You don't want to separate a man's first name from his last.....so you could do
Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Smith

leia1979

I chose to drop titles and went with Jane & John Smith. Then I didn't have to figure out what title to give to those who are married and did not change their names (half of my friends).

HockeyFan4

Remember that no titles will indicate your wedding is informal.

KBSK12

[QUOTE]Remember that no titles will indicate your wedding is informal.
Posted by HockeyFan4[/QUOTE]

Good point. I do like the no titles approach, but if it's going to indicate the wedding isn't formal, I don't want to go that route. It's not black tie, but I'd say semi-formal.

Habs2Hart

We did Mrs Jane and Mr. John Smith for ours. 

KBSK12

This is my invitation.  Our wedding is at an old restored barn. I feel like I'm getting too OCD on this now.  

HockeyFan4

I would think since the place is called The Barn, that the wedding would be more casual....in which case I think you could drop the titles.

Kate61487

Can somebody point me in the direction of the "don't separate a man's name from his last name" rule?  I know it's been spouted on here dozens of times but I've looked for it and aside from the occassional forum/blog post were someone says it I can't find anywhere that it's actually written.  IMO its a completely outdated rule that should be done in.  If for no other reason: what do you do when two gay men marry and one takes the other's last name?