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Bach party question

So my MOH is a fabulous person and wants to be very involved.  I have told her it is not necessary but she is so excited and happy to plan a bachelorette party and a shower.  I have known her for almost 30 years and I love her to pieces and appreciate her.  Especially since she has 3 young boys and is finding the time to plan things for me.  I am forever grateful.  

She asked about going to Vegas for a bachelorette party, which was very sweet as she knows I love Vegas, but I told her that spending a lot of money was not an option.  She offered miles for a plane fare which I told her I felt bad to accept but she insisted.  We found a very inexpensive hotel which I've stayed at before which costs only 250 for 3 days which is a fabulous deal.  So we booked the trip.  She asked who I wanted to invite but I didn't care if not one other person came because I would be incredibly happy if was even just us.  I  said I will throw it out there to others to see who would like to join us. 

The issue is that I know a lot of people through my MOH who I have known for years, but would not speak to on a normal basis, if it weren't for gettting together at MOH's house for kid's parties, etc.  One of the her friend's who I have known for years but am not close to but do really enjoy found out about Vegas and wants to go.  I know she'd be a lot of fun but I feel weird being that she's not invited to the wedding.  She does not expect to be invited, but I don't know how to handle this.  

She keeps telling MOH to let her know about Vegas and that it will be so much fun, but do I not ask her to go?  I know she does not expect to be invited to the wedding but if someone is at the bacheolorette party, especially a destination party, would it be expected to include them in the weddng invite?

Thoughts?
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Re: Bach party question

  • How did this friend find out about Vegas to be begin with?  It's best to not talk about the wedding or pre-wedding parties with those who are not invited.  Did she overhear or did someone say "Ohmygod, do you want to go to Vegas?"

    In general, those not invited to the wedding are not invited to the bachelorette party. 
  • She found out through the MOH's sister.  MOH's friends are a different circle of friends that I only see when I see MOH.  When FI and I are around them, usually once every other month or so they all ask about the wedding and I do try to just politely answer and move on.  
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