Groomsmen, suits, budgets, options

emeejeeayen

FI tried to ask his groomsmen for budgets for suits but didn't receive many reasonable responses. I would have thought "I can't afford anything" to be potentially reasonable, but instead they're saying things like "2 cents." Whatever.

So FI asks what color suits they already own, but again just joke responses.

We're 5 months out plenty of time but I'd like to know budgets just so we can make some decisions on style because 1 or 2 of the guys need a new suit for work and are hoping to get one that does double duty.

I'm leaving it alone for now, but my main question after doing some research is this: since all the guys are coming to our CA wedding from NY, do they have to do rentals if we do rentals in CA? How long do you get to keep rentals for? Is our only option buying due to timeline of events?

Thanks!!

emeejeeayen

Sorry I'm on mobile if there are actually no paragraphs

emeejeeayen

In Response to Re:Groomsmen, suits, budgets, options:There are paragraphs. nbsp;They just don't show up for you when you post on TK mobile.I have no clue about rental timelines and all that, but I would have FI tell the guys "seriously, I need to know a budget and color preference/color you already own/whatever." nbsp;These are his closest friends, right? nbsp;So, I don't understand why he doesn't just press them for a serious answer. Posted by StageManager14 He's very uncomfortable talking about budget, and we currently live in DC so he's unable to have the conversation in person. ETA: he's followed up with his 2 co best men that are BFF with all the other guys as well, but so far the 2 best men are the only ones providing serious responses.

[Deleted User]

I know with our tux rentals the we were able to pick up on Thursday for our Saturday wedding but they had to be back on Sunday. So if you are going to do rentals, it will probably be cheaper to rent in CA & just have measurements done & provided to rental shop.

If renting won't work, depending on what your wedding colors are, you can't go wrong with a navy blue or black suit. That are staple colors. You can tell the guys to get that color and you are safe it's a color suit they can use again in the future. This would allow them to get a suit that works for whatever budget they can afford & puts the timeframe on them knowing they need to get it before the trip. Plus you probably won't run into too many shade differences with Navy or Black. If you go gray, you'll run a big risk of them all having a different shade, of gray. Which if you're ok with, then it's ok. Granted, the suit styles will vary, but basically they will be the same and as long as they are the same color, it will look nice.

If you can't decide on suit color, send out a quick email asking, do you already own either a black, gray or blue suit, if so what color? You can decide based on how many may already own a suit in a certain color what color to go with.

Then like pp said, just pick up matching ties that you like for them to pull their looks together.

emeejeeayen

Bridesmaids are all wearing entirely mismatched dresses in nude/blush tones so I don't care about matching. More worried some may not own suits. They're all 25 and 26 so that's crazy but entirely within the realm of possibility.

BAS19

FI is 27 and doesn't own a suit he could wear anywhere, so I can see them not owning suits, esp if they won't give him a real answer. FI's only suit is a heavy wool that was ok when he lived in NJ but he would never be able to wear in FL.

We couldn't find suits to rent either at a reasonable price but we "found" a 50% off coupon for Men's Warehouse and we are going to have the guys buy a grey suit and rent the shirt, tie and shoes for about $20 more than they would spend to rent a tux. All of the guys have been in weddings for each other in the past few years so we know what they have spent to rent the tuxes.  

Pookieson

We are in central cali and we ended up renting vests and pants from mens wearhouse, I think they had a jacket too but we aren't using that for the GM.  It's a vera wang if that helps and it is charcoal.  The are around $60 bucks to rent.  Picking them up thurs and they have to be back by Monday after the sat wedding.  (We asked for an extra day and they accomadated us) Good luck.

SmallenForever

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_groomsmen-suits-budgets-options?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:506b9cf8-6480-4c77-8f9f-5e7070cfae7ePost:44fdeb44-182c-4573-bfa7-2e44dfbf9862">Re: Groomsmen, suits, budgets, options</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Groomsmen, suits, budgets, options : Vests should never be worn without a jacket, at least during the ceremony.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>What will happen if they do wear vests without jackets?</div>

Simply Fated

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_groomsmen-suits-budgets-options?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:506b9cf8-6480-4c77-8f9f-5e7070cfae7ePost:b5afeaa1-2a7f-4b7f-afc9-c7be700fe911">Re: Groomsmen, suits, budgets, options</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Groomsmen, suits, budgets, options : What will happen if they do wear vests without jackets?
Posted by SmallenForever[/QUOTE]
The fashion police fines you. <div>
</div><div>
</div><div>I have no idea, but I can't imagine it's a serius issue lol.</div>

lovesclimbing

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_groomsmen-suits-budgets-options?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:506b9cf8-6480-4c77-8f9f-5e7070cfae7ePost:44fdeb44-182c-4573-bfa7-2e44dfbf9862">Re: Groomsmen, suits, budgets, options</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Groomsmen, suits, budgets, options : Vests should never be worn without a jacket, at least during the ceremony.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Really?  I have seen it done at several weddings, in fact, that is what DH and his BM did and I have always thought it looked quite nice.

</div>

itzMS

Our groomsmen definitely didn't/still don't own formalwear, so I can relate. If rentals are the "norm" in your FI's circle, that could be why the guys think he's silly for asking if they own suits. In my DH's group of friends, they always rent from Mens Wearhouse.

loca4pook

We have groomsmen from out of town. We are using Men's Weahouse since it is nationawide. They get 'fitted" in their hometown, but pick it up at the one closest to the wedding site.

They pick it up the day before ( i believe) adn return it the day after.

They have up until 2 weeks before to place their order, so you "do" have time, if that is the route you decide...

emeejeeayen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_groomsmen-suits-budgets-options?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:506b9cf8-6480-4c77-8f9f-5e7070cfae7ePost:8f52fa2b-6807-4e43-bf9d-88f3b735faf3">Re:Groomsmen, suits, budgets, options</a>:
[QUOTE]Our groomsmen definitely didn't/still don't own formalwear, so I can relate. If rentals are the "norm" in your FI's circle, that could be why the guys think he's silly for asking if they own suits. In my DH's group of friends, they always rent from Mens Wearhouse.
Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]

<div>Sorry - we're not doing tuxes, we're doing suits.</div><div>
</div><div>There is no norm in our circle as none of the guys have ever attended a wedding before, not even as children I think.</div>