Etiquite

jessicakes

My fiance and I are getting married next year. We are having a very small intimate wedding with immediate family. How can I announce to all of the other family members, that we are getting married with out inviting them. Please help what is proper protocol?

picoult81

It's Etiquette, not etiquite.  Sorry, that's all I have for you.

JessAndTrav

You can put an announcement in the paper and send out wedding announcements after the wedding.

ETIQUETTE.

It's written at the top of your screen, and we have a spell check feature.

shellydiane820

Etikete says you don't have to make a big announcement.

jajph1974

I think announcing it and then not inviting them is kind of like saying "look what you can't have", you know?

lauralaur

Send out announcements just after the wedding to let them know that you got married.

FutureMrsDudley55

Eticut?.. No?.. Damn it. I'll get it, don't tell me..

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]Eticut?.. No?.. Damn it. I'll get it, don't tell me..
Posted by FutureMrsDudley55[/QUOTE]

DED!

brookelynpaisley

Ehtiket says you stick out your tongue and say "neener, neener, you can't come!"

It's better to not bring it up. If people ask, say that you're having a very intimate ceremony and leave it at that. You can send an announcement after.

MyNameIsNot

You don't tell people that you're having a party and they aren't invited.  

Don't say anything at all.  If people ask, you can say that you are keeping it super small.  Then after the fact, you can send announcements if you want to.  

Nebb

Wowza, I think thats the most unique spelling of the word ive ever seen.

shellydiane820

Out of any word misspelled on this board, "etiquette" never ceases to amaze me.  ITS RIGHT THERE!

RachNRich

Gosh Shelly, you make it sound like it's obvious or something.

shellydiane820

You're right Rach.  I guess you'd have to look :-P

opalsky007

You can:
-Announce your wedding after the fact
-If people ask, let them know that you're keeping it small

If you told me, unsolicited, that I wasn't invited to your wedding, I would want to eticuttabitch.

meghanbilligmeier

  Wow ladies!  Who cares how it is spelled? i still knew what she was asking. Who knew this was supposed to be an English class!  Using the message board to be harsh about ones spelling isn't really appropriate is it?  Maybe if you don't have a suggestion for the bride-to-be about her question, that isn't rude and malicious, then maybe you should keep your opinions to yourselves!
  Anyway, Jessiecakes, I think that having a large wedding to please all family members just isn't realistic for every couple and I think now a days a lot of people understand that. I think that starting to let relatives know before hand that it is going to be very small and intimate is a start. Continue to advise everyone as the day approaches that it is just going to be an intimate affair. If someone feels upset that they aren't invited then hopefully they will say something to you personally, but if they don't then that's thier fault. Be prepared for peoples feelings to get hurt because it's going to happen, it always does. We aren't all able to throw away money on a huge wedding to please the masses!
  I hope some of this info is helpful, remember it is YOUR day and do what you want no matter what!

brookelynpaisley

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[QUOTE]  Wow ladies!  Who cares how it is spelled? i still knew what she was asking. Who knew this was supposed to be an English class!  Using the message board to be harsh about ones spelling isn't really appropriate is it?  Maybe if you don't have a suggestion for the bride-to-be about her question, that isn't rude and malicious, then maybe you should keep your opinions to yourselves!  Posted by meghanbilligmeier[/QUOTE]

You must be new here

katiewhompus

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[QUOTE]  Wow ladies!  Who cares how it is spelled? i still knew what she was asking. Who knew this was supposed to be an English class!  Using the message board to be harsh about ones spelling isn't really appropriate is it?  Maybe if you don't have a suggestion for the bride-to-be about her question, that isn't rude and malicious, then maybe you should keep your opinions to yourselves!   Anyway, Jessiecakes, I think that having a large wedding to please all family members just isn't realistic for every couple and I think now a days a lot of people understand that. I think that starting to let relatives know before hand that it is going to be very small and intimate is a start. Continue to advise everyone as the day approaches that it is just going to be an intimate affair. If someone feels upset that they aren't invited then hopefully they will say something to you personally, but if they don't then that's thier fault. Be prepared for peoples feelings to get hurt because it's going to happen, it always does. We aren't all able to throw away money on a huge wedding to please the masses!   I hope some of this info is helpful, remember <strong>it is YOUR day and do what you want no matter what!</strong>
Posted by meghanbilligmeier[/QUOTE]


Damnit...I could have saved the money by not giving them chairs and just making them stand for the whole ceremony...

brookelynpaisley

Oh wait, I kept reading and realized you have to be a troll. That or you just really don't know what you're talking about. You shouldn't ever tell people "hey, I'm having a party, but I can't invite you." This only needs to be told to family IF they start asking. And drop the "it's YOUR day" nonsense. Receptions aren't about being rude to guests - common courtesy still applies.

And don't use your full name for a user name. You wouldn't believe the things FIshy can find out about you with a simple google search.

meghanbilligmeier

I'll use my full name if I want LADIES! This is a wedding site, not a bully site, and threats? really? wow!

brookelynpaisley

Oooh, fun, I'll play.

No one threatened. All I'm saying is that there are people who lurk and don't post who could use personal information - such as your full name - to find out things about you. Crazy brides have gotten revenge on other knotties by cancelling vendors, calling employers, etc. Do you still want people to know who you are?

And also, it's a public forum. My post didn't break any rules, and neither did anyone else's. Perhaps you should educate yourself on them.

Nebb

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[QUOTE]  Wow ladies!  Who cares how it is spelled? i still knew what she was asking. Who knew this was supposed to be an English class!  Using the message board to be harsh about ones spelling isn't really appropriate is it?  Maybe if you don't have a suggestion for the bride-to-be about her question, that isn't rude and malicious, then maybe you should keep your opinions to yourselves!   Anyway, Jessiecakes, I think that having a large wedding to please all family members just isn't realistic for every couple and I think now a days a lot of people understand that. I think that starting to let relatives know before hand that it is going to be very small and intimate is a start. Continue to advise everyone as the day approaches that it is just going to be an intimate affair. If someone feels upset that they aren't invited then hopefully they will say something to you personally, but if they don't then that's thier fault. Be prepared for peoples feelings to get hurt because it's going to happen, it always does. We aren't all able to throw away money on a huge wedding to please the masses!   I hope some of this info is helpful, remember it is YOUR day and do what you want no matter what!
Posted by meghanbilligmeier[/QUOTE]
Wow. Youve just proven, unequivocally, what a total and complete idiot you are. Thanks for your stellar contribution.

smokeybailey

Next she'll be telling OP, Stick to your guns!!!

brookelynpaisley

Put your foot down, it's your special princess day! Screw your guests. And I feel bad for all y'all's fiancees and husbands!!!!

picoult81

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[QUOTE]  Wow ladies!  Who cares how it is spelled? i still knew what she was asking. Who knew this was supposed to be an English class!  Using the message board to be harsh about ones spelling isn't really appropriate is it? 
Posted by meghanbilligmeier[/QUOTE]


This was my first time to get snarky EVER, but seriously, how do you misspell a word that is the freakin' name of the board?  You have to go out of your way to be that kind of stupid.

riverjib

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[QUOTE]It's Etiquette, not etiquite.  Sorry, that's all I have for you.
Posted by picoult81[/QUOTE]

LOL! I'd normally say this was unfair (though bad grammar/spelling is a HUGE pet peeve), but the correct spelling of "etiquette" is hard to miss on this forum!!

liziebennet

I'm with you on the advice, including how rotten some people choose to be to others.  Can you imagine how they behave towards people they actually know, friends (if they have any real ones), partners, etc.?  Let us be glad they're not in our circle of friends. 

Good luck Meghan & Jessecakes!

katiewhompus

I don't generally care about most spelling and grammar, but you can at least spell etiquette right when it's the name of the board and right in front of you as you type!