Is this ok?

Noellesmama

A friend on my fiance and I is getting married and has invited us to her wedding ceremony and not reception. Is this bad etiquette?

kris10royal

Yes, that is rude.

Noellesmama

I thought so too...she and her fiance were my fiances roomates awhile back when we first started dating. It seemed a little weird to me. Thanks!

MissIntentional

very!

Belle2Be

Are you sure she's having a reception? Did the invite specifically say Ceremony only?

Noellesmama

Well the thing is that we didn't really receive a formal invite... they work in the same school district and she mentioned it to him. She sent me a PM on FB telling me the details...and she there will be a reception. We were both told that the reception reached its capacity.

I was always under the impression that the reception is a thank you to guests for going out of their way to spend the day with you. And the next part I was under the impression was, to either a) invite guests to both ceremony and reception or b) do not invite them at all. ???

I really don't care and am not really slighted in the least, but just wanted to get your thoughts on this.

PharmacyBride

Yes, I think it is rude to invite someone only to the ceremony- I don't care what the limitations are on the reception (money... capacity.. etc).

Don't feel obligated to give a gift.  Go if you want, but unless I had nothing better going that day- I would decline.

Mrs.B6302007

Terribly rude!  I'd have to be busy that day.  You know, washing my hair.

Beachy730

Yes that is rude and I can't believe people actually do that.

Unless you asked for details she shouldn't be giving you the info for the ceremony.  I definitely wouldn't go unless these are people you really want to see get married.  And I definitely wouldn't be sending a gift. 

Birdie1483

I have never wanted to see a wedding ceremony so bad that I would go even if I wasn't invited to the reception. And I don't think I'd want people at my ceremony that won't be at my reception unless it was their own choice not to go.

[Deleted User]

Years ago that was an acceptable practice. The bride's parents probably sugguested it for some people that they would have liked to have there but they can not have everyone.

Noellesmama

Joe and I never asked for details... as far as I know he asked how the planning was coming along, since we were engaged around the same time.

I really do not have my heart set on going to the ceremony, and I actually told Joe last night that I really don't want to go. Now, at the least I won't feel obligated to invite them to ours either.

chelsea718

Totally rude!  I wouldn't go if I were you!  That's like saying "bring me a present but don't come to the party".