Bachelorette Party Gift?

Nickie431

Is it customary to bring a gift to a bachelorette party?

The few that I've attended were very calm, casual affairs without alcohol.  I've been to one "personal shower," which is what I thought it was called when the bride received lingerie.  However, this bachelorette invite lists the bride's sizes.  I don't want to be the only one who doesn't come bearing a gift, but the party is the night of the bridal shower to allow for OOT friends' involvement in both, and two gifts plus dinner at a nice restauarant and drinks all in one day is bit much for my budget.  Will a fun card for the bachelorette party suffice?

Comments in addition to the poll are very welcome!

Peledreamsofrain

Before my bachelorette party, I would have said 'no'.  But everyone brought me a gift to mine, which really surprised me.  Most of them weren't expensive;  just small fun items like massage oil,  a chicken apron (I like chickens :P), etc.

I don't think you'd be side-eyed just bringing a card, but if you feel uncomfortable going without a small gift, by all means pick something up.

vk2204

I have always brought a gift to the bachelorette party - but that is because I was standing up in the wedding.

Can you go to a department store and grab a cute pair of panties? If they put her sizes on the invitation I feel like they are expecting everyone to bring something for the bride. If I were you, I would scale back $10 on the shower gift and use that to bring a gift to the bach party because I would feel uncomfortable going in empty handed.

nicoleandersonmd

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bachelorette-party-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:51f4c9c8-71cd-43e2-92e8-00b1e6b1aa5dPost:fe9cb520-6640-4a36-86e4-4597b767b20f">Re: Bachelorette Party Gift?</a>:
[QUOTE]I have always brought a gift to the bachelorette party - but that is because I was standing up in the wedding. Can you go to a department store and grab a cute pair of panties? If they put her sizes on the invitation I feel like they are expecting everyone to bring something for the bride. If I were you, I would scale back $10 on the shower gift and use that to bring a gift to the bach party because I would feel uncomfortable going in empty handed.
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I have never been to a Bachelorette party where the Bride's friends brought gift. I have never heard of thisuntil right now! Ifanything, throwing the party itself is a gift and people generally cover the bride's drinks and any meal.

I agree that its a lot to ask, especially in one day.

Of note, my Bachelorrette Party is this weekend!!!!! (AndI dont expect gifts.....or a card........)

EDIT: vk2204........I did not intend to quote you. Accidently pressed Reply instead of new post. Sorry!

hgminor

In my area and group of friends, there is a bachelorette party and a lingerie shower.  Normally the shower is a starting event at the party because it kicks off a fun attitude.  It sounds like this is happening at your event, though it is weird to have a bridal shower right before a lingerie shower.  

I would suggest getting a smaller bridal shower item (maybe a few of the cheaper kitchen utensils) and then a cheap, but nice little something.  Target has some nice little items that are super soft and comfy, while also being pretty.  Or you could go in with someone else to get a matching set of something from VS.

harper0813

Gifts are never required. Do what you can - if you don't have the spare money, your presence is a gift. I've always brought a "suggestive" gift (edible underwear, lacy thongs, massage oils) to a bachelorette party just for fun, but not everyone brings a gift. 

athomfor

I think it depends on  your circle. Every bachelorette party I have been to there was an expectation of gifts (lingerie, massage oils, etc). The ladies planning my bachelorette asked for my sizing to share with those invited- so I'm guessing there is an expectation of gifts at mine.

OwningAHome1981

Usually no one gives gifts but sometimes the girls will get together and purchase name tags or penis necklaces or things like that for you to adorn.

WalkersFurMama

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bachelorette-party-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:51f4c9c8-71cd-43e2-92e8-00b1e6b1aa5dPost:fe9cb520-6640-4a36-86e4-4597b767b20f">Re: Bachelorette Party Gift?</a>:
[QUOTE]I have always brought a gift to the bachelorette party - but that is because I was standing up in the wedding. Can you go to a department store and grab a cute pair of panties? If they put her sizes on the invitation I feel like they are expecting everyone to bring something for the bride. <strong>If I were you, I would scale back $10 on the shower gift and use that to bring a gift to the bach party because I would feel uncomfortable going in empty handed.</strong>
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<div>This is what I would do. I was in Target this weekend and they had "Just Married" undies for $7.50. </div>